Ok so I'm not sure if I am just being paranoid, or if I'm right.

My ex guy(Tony) was seemingly wonderful to me and I had no idea that he was a habitual cheater until after we broke up.

This guy (Jason) has a lot in common with my ex, in that he is in the army and shared some exes with him. Jason said he doesn't like Tony. We all went to the same high school, which is when they dated the same people, so I figured that doesn't matter, but I don't know. Tony had sworn to me he had never cheated before, but jason admitted he has cheated twice because they cheated on him first. Jason said that he is kind of a flirt and I call him out on it when it bothers me, and he says he likes that I keep him in line because his past girlfriends had been too scared to. He told me he had slept with less people than he actually did, but he came clean about it later and he said it was because he didn't want me to think less of him. He told me he wrote a letter for me when he didn't, and he said it was because he didn't know what to say. Other than that he has given me no reason not to trust him. Jason seems to be more normal than Tony as far as cheating goes because Tony had all the signs of being a habitual cheater looking back. Jason seems to care about me in a more realistic way than Tony, but I was duped before, so who is to say that I won't be again? I had issues with trust before tony because of other things that have happened in my life. I really do like Jason, but I don't know how to get over this anti-trust thing. I want to trust him, but I don't know how. Any advice?

Hello ccgherdoc,

I've had the feelings of distrust myself and they are quite awfull. Honestly, sit Jason down and ask if him honestly if he's cheating or has any intention of doing so. If he replies yes then break up and go through the sorrow, If not takes his word for it and get on with your life, work at your career or studys very hard try to be the best you can. If later Jason turns out to be not what he says then part ways though I can't say if he will or not.

Take his word on it and forget about being cheated on and be happy with your relationship and love each other!

Good luck and report back if any further information comes about

Peter

Leave them both alone and find someone you CAN trust. Right now I don't see a benefit for you to go from one friend to another, when you have doubts about both.

Better to be single, and see your other options, and opportunities to be happy, and enjoying your life.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Leave them both alone and find someone you CAN trust. Right now I don't see a benefit for you to go from one friend to another, when you have doubts about both.

Better to be single, and see your other options, and opportunities to be happy, and enjoying your life.

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I agree... you need a new start because by them being friends you will always have the thought in your head!