I have a friend whom I met through the daycare I work at. He seems like a really nice guy but people have been saying stuff to me that is starting to get to me. He also works with kids, coaches a kids basketball team, and is going to college after he graduates to be a pediatrician/councelor for kids. Some people have been saying they think he may like kids a little too much (if you know what I mean) but I'm not sure. I don't know him very well, but I thought he just liked kids. Does anyone else think this is strange and a little off or are those people just being paranoid and rude? :confused:

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Its just too hard to say without knowing the guy

My grandfather was once accused of liking kids too much. He was the old guy who always hung at the city park.

But the truth was he absolutely loved kids. He loved the energy and the life. I think it was therapeutic for him to be around kids.

The guy you are talking about... well never know him well enough to pick up a funny vibe. Its possible. It happens. I also know that some people simply love being around kids.

When you don't know people that well then its best to keep your distance and observe.

Take it for what it is, gossip... until proved otherwise. I would hope that if there had been any real tangibles to it, someone would have taken the appropriate measures.

Tal and Val are both right. Keep your distance and observe without judgment and if there is anything inappropriate, you will see it. Communicate often with the children. Look for any change in behavior in them.

Until then, it is gossip.

It's hard to answer your question without a little more background information. Some people just naturally like kids and are not pedophiles. Such people make good teachers, scoutmasters, coaches, etc. What does your own gut instinct tell you? I think I'd go with that until you learn of any definite concrete evidence to the contrary.

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Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow

Take it for what it is, gossip... until proved otherwise. I would hope that if there had been any real tangibles to it, someone would have taken the appropriate measures.

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These were my first thoughts as well!

This is total bull. If these people really believed that why are they just telling you, a grown adult woman he has shown an interest in? If they really believed that why are they not reporting him to a supervisor or questioning him themselves. It's your friends I'd be worried about.

I am told that I can be intolerant to ignorant people... think about your actions to this situation... why are you so influenced by the actions of the insecure... check out your mind first... then the answer to your question is there ( with in you)... tell the person that is accused of this questionable/supposed to be truth or lie... slander law suits are and can be considered... accusing someone of such a deed is not funny... it is selfish... take your time and watch the situation and ask questions of the accused... check out your mind...

There are a lot men in the world that work with kids, some are very successful and that doesn't mean they like kids in that way. I think these are just rumors because its unusual to meet someone like that. This is just my opinion and I don't know the full details. Become close friends and see what happens. Hope it works out

Run a background check on him. When it comes to children it is better to be safe than sorry.

Who are these people that are saying this? Do they work with him, know him, or just those that have nothing better to say or do than gossip and ruin anothers character? If you see him with these children you should be able to see how he interacts with them and how they act towards him. I have a great distaste for people who ruin anothers reputation with idle false gossip. I would point blank ask them what basis they have to say something and if they are willing to say it to his face.

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Originally Posted by Luv_My_Reece

I have a friend whom I met through the daycare I work at. He seems like a really nice guy but people have been saying stuff to me that is starting to get to me. He also works with kids, coaches a kids basketball team, and is going to college after he graduates to be a pediatrician/councelor for kids. Some people have been saying they think he may like kids a little too much (if you know what I mean) but I'm not sure. I don't know him very well, but I thought he just liked kids. Does anyone else think this is strange and a little off or are those people just being paranoid and rude??:confused:

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Well, my Ex-boyfriend also liked kids. He would rather be with kids than adults. Always wanting to help out where kids were involved. Mostly at church with the youth group. I dated him for a little over a year and always noticed that he spent more time with my 10 year old daughter than with me. He said he was trying to establish a bond with her so that she would one day accept him as her step-dad (her dad died two years ago). Well to make a long sad story short, he molested her. Also found out he had molested another little girl that he was taking care of. So, you never know. They have ways of tricking you. Just be cautious. Look for strange signs. I had them right in my face and was still tricked.