Hi my name is lisa and I have been in a relationship with a woman for almost 4yrs. We started having sex all of the time and now it is maybe every couple of months. There has been a lot of turmoil in our relationship but we have seemed to somewhat work it out. Now we are in therapy and I guess it is working but I don't know. I have a very high sexual drive and a very curious mind about a lot of things sexually. Why do we have these problems? She gives me all of these reasons, excuses, and lies as to why we don't have sex. I don't understand!! Is it because I am not gay and just bisexual?

I'm straight and have been with my boyfriend for 5 years... our sex life has definitely depleated down lol. Just like you, we started having sex all the time, now we're lucky to do it once every month... but I know for us, work, family, friends, whatever has taken up most of our time... after working all day sex is the last things on our minds. Is cheating a part of your relationship problems?

with problems, sex often is a huge turnoff... as time goes by, and the issues lessen, if you all are in love, the sexual drive Will come back...continue with the couseling...