Hi I have been in a releationship for almost 2.5yrs I use to love my girl a lot and even she use to love me a lot but in the beginning I use to igone her for few reasons and some times I don't kie what she does and she doesn't like what I do we use to fight for silly things and make up again every thing was going fine our parents and her parents know about us very well we had planned for our marriages but our small fights created more problems between us she had been out of country for month and last 14th feb we had issues and broke up since she was out of country I was not able to se her get a chance to talk to her she had come on 4 th march we spoke about our releationship and she says that she loves me but she found some one else but I don't think so she got some one in her life because when ever I meet her she loves me lot she hugs me and even kisses me sometimes and says that she loves me but again she says that she has some one in her life that she likes that person a lot she wants to get married with him not with me when I ask her that if she likes some one she says yes then I tel her that OK I will go away from her but the only way I can forget her is to go away from her and stay in different place and go away from her she says no don't do that I can't se in a different place I can send you there she says that she still loves me and has love for me about 70% and 30%she hates me for what ever mistakes I have done when we had fought I had treated her very badly but I did releasied all my mistakes and asked her sorry but she still hates me for that and when ever she thinks about it she hates me I releasied all my mistakes and I want to love her a lot and take care and keep her happy but I want to know if she really loves some one or has feelings for me I am confused

Are you crazy?? Leave her alone, and get on with your own life. Forget what she is talking about, because that works for her but makes you look like a trained love sick puppy! UGH!!

You can love somebody that is N0 good for you
It is called a toxic relationship
What is the point of being there for her when she won't be there for you?
She sounds like a drama queen that is confused.

Tell her you love her from a distance and make it a FAR distance!

But I guss she still needs me she tels me that she needs me by her side and even I need her a lot in my life the reason is I guss she is confused because she had a fight with me and at that point of time there was a guy who showed a little bit of concern to her she got confused and don't know what to do she said that she is in love with him and when she was coming to india she had called me and asked me to come to airport I met her she still says she loves me I did meet her she did sleep on my chest and she hugs me but the person whom she is with right now is not close to her she only talks to him over the phone every day but she still thinks about me and feels for me she doesn't want me to be far away from her she wants to know how I am doing I guss since she had a fight with me and at that point of time she had a person who showed a affection on her she has been atracted but I am confient that I will get her back

If your happy doing as she says, and when she says it, you keep right on being her puppy dog. If your happy, so am I.

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She did tel me that she is love with the person she likes him a lot but I did talk to her about all the mistakes I did she did ask me why did you treat me so badly I explained every thing to her she cried she told me that she still loves me but since she has a feelings for another person she doesn't know what to do every day I go to her house I wake her up drop her to work she meets once she's is done with work what ever I missed when she was there with me I am doing it know she knows that she asked me why you did not this when she was there in my life I told her that I missed that's the reason I am doing it know I have changed a lot I told her even if she comes back know I can take care of her and keep her happier in life just that she says even if the releationship doesn't go fine with that person she will not come back to me .but she will still care for me but I can se her that she still loves me but doesn't want to tel it to me any idea what's running in her mind does she miss me and needs me in her life

How many times does she have to tell you she doesn't want to be your g/f?

Your running head first into a brick wall.

Well I guss I can't leavr her alone she still needs me even I need her even today I met her she did talk to me she asked to get her lunch and so on she did kiss me to but I guss she still needs me aside her and I will be with her I still love her and will do lot of things for her to keep her happy I have strong feeling she will be mine

Ask her for another chance to show that you are worthy of being with her. She may give it to you. But if she says no. Move on. Try no contact because I you do continue to talk and see each other it will cause more grief (trust me I know).

Sorry, I got to be blunt.

How much longer can you keep this up with her? One minute she tells you that she loves you, the next minute she tells you that she loves this other guy. Is love so blind? Is that the kind of relationship you want? How can you still trust her?

If you still want to see her, then just stay friends. But if you can't handle friends only, it's time to block her out of your life for your sake.

Sorry, but another harsh post warning

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deepak_prakash2;1599888, well I guess I can't leave her alone she still needs me even I need her

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Neither of you needs each other. She keeps you around, for errands, chores, and tricks, and you let her. Thats not love from either of you, more like dog/master.

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even today I met her she did talk to me she asked to get her lunch and so on she did kiss me to but I guess she still needs me aside her

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Buy me lunch I would kiss you too!

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and I will be with her I still love her and will do lot of things for her to keep her happy I have strong feeling she will be mine

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She get the benefit of a loyal dog, exactly what are you getting??

Bear with me here, what do you think would happen if you disappeared from her life and just left her alone?? Try it, I dare you.

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It has been almost a few weeks we have been spending a lot of time and we sit and talk about the mistakes we made we realized all those things and I had my birthday she did spend lot of time on that day with me and she did ask me question that I have now changed a lot I don shout at her or abuse her I show lot of love and affection to her she is happy with me when ever I am around her she did tel me that no matter what ever it is she will be there for me by my side she did tel me that she is happy they way I am now I did tel her that I can keep her happy and I can give her every thing in life what ever I did not give her when she was there now I am ready to give her and keep her happy in life we spent a lot of time talking and she said that she would like to come out with me where we have been to ooty but she did tel me that how will she tel the person whom she is with now and after every thing she asked why did you do like this when I was there in your life she said that if you had been like this I would have never left you and gone but she still has feelings for some else in which she did tel me that and they have been around only for a month not even a month does she still loves me will she come back to me I did ask her come back to me give me last chance but she says I don want to come back and make a mistake I don know what that means is she confused in life or don't know what to do I still love her a lot some one advice me please

I'm sorry but I had quite some trouble reading your question let alone trying to find out what exactly the question was.

If your saying that she said she still loves you but is seeing someone else then your best bet is to leave her alone. She's with another man and it's up to her to come to you- cheating on her current mate would only sour any future relationship you would have with her.

If you made your feelings clear to her and she has made her feelings clear to you the only thing you can do is wait.

If she's worth it you can wait, if she isn't then move on. Simple as that.

MRS.S

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she says I don want to come back and make a mistake

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You are promising her things but she has doubts that the relationship and you will truly change.

Words alone are not enough to make her feel that she can trust you again with her heart.

You are telling her everything she wants to hear about being a changed person but she does not want to be hurt.

She does not want to make the same mistake twice.

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she still has feelings for some else in which she did tel me that and they have been around only for a month not even a month does she still loves me

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If she is telling you she cares for someone else ,I think that is a good indication that she is done with you.

I think it best if you let her go.

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I did ask her come back to me give me last chance but she says i don want to come back and make a mistake I don know what that means is she confused in life or don't know what to do I still love her a lot.

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She is telling you that even though you say things will be different, she doesn't believe you, and she is not about to waste her time.