I have been seeing the gal we are in our mid 20's, and talk a couple times a week. It is evident that she really likes me when she is around (or at least she is one hell of an actor). We agreed to take it slow and not generically label anything. She had a 2.5 year relationship that ended badly six months ago. I had a relationship for nearly 3 years. Also ending badly.

That's the background on my situation... The last time we went out was a party for my mother. All of her work friends were there as well as family. We had our own table, and she seemed to like everyone. We had a couple of drinks left the party played darts. She was making out with me at the bar every chance she got, and I snuck a few myself. We left the bar went back to her place, and well use your imagination. She has been standoffish between dates, but she has totally shut down since Sat. Should I be concerned, cause I feel like a drunken night of sloppy sex may have seriously jeapordized anything progressing in this hanging out (dating). Someone please shed some light on my situation, because I am a man and I don't think women. The worst part is that she'd give mebutterflies every time I'd pick her up.

Okay... coming from a women's perspective... and usually when I help out people I have been in their situations before... but in this case I haven't... but I know where you are coming from. Unless you are married or in a true dedicated relationship you should KNOW that sex will only sometimes make your relationaship go down the drain. Im not saying to listen to me... but just let things chill... make it obvious to her you just don't want sex and make sure that's not all she wants either. BUt do not be a sex addict once you figure things out. Girls don't like that unless they are only in it for the sex. They like only the special occasions. Figure her out by her body language... it will probably be what you think:)

Maybe she feels she made a mistake and jumped in too soon.Maybe she hooked back up with the ex.
The only sure fire way to know is to ask.
If you felt comfortable enough to be sexually intimate ,you should feel comfortable enough to talk.
Guessing can only lead to any number of wrong conclusions.