I an 26 year old unmarried girl I had one boy fried I used to mate with him but now we are separated so I am suffering uncontrollable sexual feeling how can I control it

Self help?

It is not unusual for women in their mid-twenties-mid-thirties to feel highly sexually. Physiologically, this is when you have the most estrogen and other hormones going through your body (not counting puberty.) Many women choose to engage in masturbation if they do not have or do not want a partner.

Masturbation. Get yourself some toys and maybe a new hobby to keep you busy.

And understand there are other things in life.

It's completely natural to feel this way. I agree with others. Masturbation is completely normal and nothing to be ashamed of. A nice man will come along sometime. In the mean time enjoy being single and pick up a sport or hobby. Volunteering makes you feel good and helps others!

What a nice advice from ChihuanuaMonna, I wish I can stay up to that advice. I am man of 42 and my sex drive is so high and could have sex up 4/5 times in a day. My previous wife divorced for that reason.

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Originally Posted by abodh

What a nice advice from ChihuanuaMonna, I wish I can stay upto that advice. I am man of 42 and my sex drive is so high and could have sex up 4/5 times in a day. My previous wife divorced for that reason.

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That's a bit much. You need help when your wife LEAVES you because you want sex all the time. Obsession isn't good!

I'd say watch porn and masturbate regularly. I do, it helps when my sexy sexy man isn't handy. And I'm a perfectly normal high-achieving young woman.

Granted, when I do get him alone... forget 4-5 a day, how about 3-4 in three hours. My god I love him <3

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Originally Posted by paul noel

I an 26 year old unmarried girl i had one boy fried i used to mate with him but now we are separated so i am suffering uncontrollable sexual feeling how can i control it

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You refer to sex as "mating with him." You want to control your sexual urges... I know this wasn't your question, but it sounds like you have a lot of issues accepting your own sexuality.

What were your opinions on sex before you had sex? Did you have expectations about sex (not "will I orgasm," but "this will be a sign that we're meant for each other" expectations)? Did you feel guilty thinking sexually? Do you still feel guilty?

I've had a lot of issues in that area myself... And I have to tell you, the fact you're trying to "control" them at all is not a good sign. It just doesn't work when you feel like it's you against the beast. You're going to feel separated from your feelings, therefore incapable of dealing with them effectively. You ARE in control of your sexuality. It's a physical response, a lot like hunger. You get to choose whether you have the chinese take-out, a full cooked meal, or skip dinner entirely and eat a bowl of ice cream. Deciding you're dieting and not eating at all won't help you. Accept yourself, your new needs, and find a way to fit them into YOUR comfort zone.

"mate with him????"
And "suffering uncontrollable sexual feelings"
Oh dear, I feel that even your language tends to point towards a sexual addiction.

There is counselling available, virtually any addiction counselling would do-as they are all related.

I feel that you have an overt compulsion that may be considered dangerous to yourself and possibly others.. tread carefully.