I've seen a lot of these with girls asking for help. So I need it too.

My ex broke up with me about a month ago. We dated for 7 months, and he said he needed a break. Then we dated for a month again, and he broke up with me saying he just wasn't into me. I found it confusing because he had told me he missed me like mad, but then the other ex of his started texting him and calling him. He hid it from me, and when I found out he tried to lie about it. When I pressed on the matter he told me who she was, why she was texting him, and the like and he gave me answers. Right now I think that's the reason he broke up with me. Well I had tried being his friend, and I guess I still am. I told him I was here for help if he needed it, as in complaining about his problems and I specified that. He used to talk to me daily. Though in the last couple of weeks he started not texting me if I texted him, or texting me once or twice and not responding after. Well I spent two days not talking to him, to see if that helped. Well it did for a little bit, and he told me he would reply all day. WEll I believed him and in the end I got so pissed off that I deleted his number from my phone. If it's in my phone I have the tendency to text him. So now it's not a problem. Weird part is is that he won't text me, but he still sends me forwards. I hadn't gotten one from him in months, and his sister sends him some all the time. Well he sent me one just the other day, I didn't respond to it at all.

You don't/didn't have to read that, that's just getting it off my chest. The thing I want help with is, what the hell is he doing? And I mean the texting me sometimes, sending me forwards, still accepting my help when he needs to rant about something that is bothering him, wanting to hang out, but then acting like an . It's really hard for me, cause I really thought we had something good and he always told me that when we were dating, even the last month. So I guess I just want to know if anyone thinks there is any chance of somewhere down the road getting back together with him, and if I'm doing the right thing by getting rid of his number and letting him come to me if he wants.

I still have a pillow and blanket he gave me, and that's the only comfort I have in this is sleeping with those. Because they remind me of the good times, and it keeps me going. I had written him a poem and he kept it, and says he still has it but my guess is that he doesn't? Or could he honestly have it somewhere and is keeping it nice because I had written it for him a couple days before he broke up with me the first time, when he had always told me he loved me?

I'm trying not to listen to my friends and listen to myself, because some say he never cared about me, some say it seems that he might come back, he might man up, but it's going to take a while. I don't know, I'd really like someone else's advice, because I do want him back bad. The thing my friends agree on is that he might still 'love' me, but his life is getting in the way. And it really is, don't think he's lying because you have no idea and I do, I've seen it and been there when the stuff happens.

IF YOU REPLY TO THIS ANSWER NICELY AND DON'T MAKE ME FEEL STUPID. THIS WEBSITE IS NOT 'READ PROBLEMS AND MAKE THE PERSON FEEL LIKE CRAP' IT'S FOR HONEST HELP WITHOUT THE ATTITUDE. THANKS

If you broke up and said you were going to be friends, he is kind of acting like a... friend, he still sends you forwards and the odd message which is what friends do, he probably feels awkward because he knows you want to get back together and it isn't what he wants. Sorry if that sounds mean but that's how I interpreted it.

You need to stop being a safety net for him. When he doesn't need to rant he doesn't need you and that is not fair to you. Understand that being friends hardly ever works. It is time for you to start to move on. You deleted his number out of your phone that is a good first step. The next step get rid of that pillow and blanket. I know easier said then done but you can't keep clinging to that past.

First off I want to say that going through what you're dealing with right now is not easy. Many of us here have gone through the same thing, so you need to know that you're not alone here. So to get your story straight so far, it has been roughly 8 months since you started a relationship together, and about 1 month since you've broken up. Need a few more facts to get the whole story.. A. what are your ages? And B. How long was the gap of time between your ex breaking up with his ex and you both getting together (downtime between his last girlfriend and you)?

Based on what you've provided so far, it sounds like he put you in the "friend zone". It seems the only time he wants to really communicate is when he really needs something from you. This is definitely a "win-lose" relationship you have going right now and I don't see it getting better any time soon.

One of the first thoughts we have when the other person ends the relationship is "Doesn't any of that time we spent together mean anything?" or "What about all the good times? Were they lying?" This is normal and the answer is YES they did care and feel the same way at one point, but we must accept that they don't feel that way any longer.

I do believe you have done the right thing by getting rid of his number. That can be one of the toughest step sometimes for people but it's the best thing you can do for yourself right now. The next thing you need to do is get rid of the pillow and blanket he gave you for now - put them in a box and give them to a friend to hold on for you (when you're completely over your ex, you can get your things back and remember the good times) But for now out of sight, out of mind. Your ex broke it off and the sooner you come to accept that it is, the better off you'll be. I know you want him back but the ball is in his court - it takes two to make a relationship work - both sides must equally contribute to it. Granted, life does get in the way sometimes but many of us here have had our share of experiences too. The fact is actions speak louder than words. If he did love you and wanted to be with you - he WOULD find a way to do it. Oftentimes people make excuses to "lessen the blow" of breaking up. Hate to break it to you, but everything points to the fact that he's probably not coming back.

Also, I would honestly look at lying about talking to an ex as a "dealbreaker" for me. Something doesn't smell right there... who knows what else he could be lying about? Food for thought.

I may come off as being a little harsh but part of getting the honest, objective advice that you really need is sometimes hearing what you don't want to hear. If you want a bunch of people to nod their heads and say "yes" and tell you what you want to hear, I think you're in the wrong place.

You absolutely did the right thing by getting rid of his number. There are a few more right things you can do as stated already: it's time to get rid of the pillow and blanket and next time he sends you a forward, ask him not to text you anymore. It's hard enough to get over someone but it's considerably harder when that person remains in contact. I wouldn't wait around for this guy. If you do you'll miss out on meeting the right guy.

Your relationship has changed from romantic, to friends. Accept it. His words and actions say friends and nothing more so stop letting false hope get you reading more into it.

You need to heal, and be able to let go, and until you do, there will be confusion, misery, and a lot of pain.

Sorry for your loss!!