My question is my daughter came back into my life after 12 years,she`s now 18.:)
For reasons that I couldn't control the ex-wife ran off with her and I couldn't find her all though I did try.
She found me and I have since found out that she lives with a guy and there is nothing sexual going on ,but she is going out with his mate who is 42 years old.:(
No she only see`s him 2-3 nights a week and never at weekends he works part time.
Some times she will go to his house and he go`s out leaving her there to do his cleaning.:mad:
The history of this guy is abit unnerving for me it seems that he`s been in trouble before and the rumour go`s that he is a pedophile [ Can't seem to find out the truth].
My daughter is 18 but looks and acts like a 14 year old.He`s been in her life since she was 16 so I`m told by her.[He could have been in her life before this]
She don't seem to be able to say anything to me about her background because he seems to have a go at her if she doe`s[concerns me]
This guy doesn't want to meet me he wants nothing to do with me at all.
He lets my daughter dress like a tramp and she has very little confidence at all always trying to hide her face and talks real quiet.

So my question is this if he has been caught as a pedophile ,because she looks 14 would it give him the best of both worlds ,basically she`s old enough for sex but looks like a child.
How do I go about finding out and can I get her away from him with out pushing her nearer to him .
Would the law be able to help me in anyway I know she`s 18 but all the signs that I`m seeing are that the whole relationship is wrong.

Any help would be great thank you

Hi marko polo, I am glad you found your daughter, now you are left with a delima which you explain quite succincly as a matter of fact. Your foremost concern right now is getting her away from this guy for good hopefully, if he is what you think he is. I don't think you can call the law in at this time but if there is a pedophile registry where you are, you could check that out to see if he is on it. That is if you have his name. If he is, then you can report him with evidence you have because he is with your daughter.

Now, I suggest you maintain her confidence without making any swift moves right now. It may take a while but it could be done if you say she is a little behind (dont be offended because I don't know either of your from a hole in the ground and only going by what you say). If she is with this guy, then she is easily led so it may work in your favour.

ms. tickle

First at 18 she dresses like "she" wants, no boyfriend can or should make her dress different than she wants,

So you are having issues with the way she decides to dress.

At 18 she choices who she sees, OK,whie I doubt anyone that reads this believes there is nothing sexual, we will accept you believe it.

But it is her choice alone to make, good or bad.

Since you are just in her life, you just be there, try and get to know her, perhaps give her other options in her life. Can you help her pay for more education, go to things to meet other people.

Thank you both for your help and advise