Ask Me Help Desk - I'm obsessed with my ex

My ex and I finally called it quits about a month ago and we were together for only about 8 months. I seriously feel he was the only man I've ever fallen in love with. Our bond was so special. But things just didn't work out and our relationship started getting crazy and destructive because of some outside factors.

I feel like I'm obsessed with him. I constantly think about him. If he texts or calls me I go crazy and start texting and calling him back hoping for loving responses and for him to ask me on a date. I've text him 34 time in 12 minutes once... I've broken my phone 3 times this month because he doesn't respond to my texts quick enough. For example I'll text him "what u doin" and he won't respond for like an hour but the entire hour I'll just stare at my phone waiting for his response and then I'll just end up throwing my cell against the wall. I've even thought about stalking him just so I can see what he does all day. I cry myself to sleep 3 to 5 days a week because I just really want him back but I just know things won't work out between us. I've even initiated a few booty calls just because I want to see him again. He makes things harder for me because he'll text me out of nowhere at least once a day that he loves me.

I can't focus at work, I don't want to date anyone else, he's all I can think and talk about. I've tried to stay busy but he just keeps running through my mind. What do I do? I'm driving myself crazy and him...

All of the things you are feeling and going through are all of the reasons we support NC.

While there is still communication, you are lingering onto the hope to hear from him and you are continuing a relationship through that fashion. If you want to start seeing some better days start NC. Even one fowl up can cost you days of healing, it is worth every effort to not be in contact with your ex.

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Originally Posted by Justwantfair

All of the things you are feeling and going through are all of the reasons we support NC.

While there is still communication, you are lingering onto the hope to hear from him and you are continuing a relationship through that fashion. If you want to start seeing some better days start NC. Even one fowl up can cost you days of healing, it is worth every effort to not be in contact with your ex.

Does NC stand for no contact?

First of all, why would he text you that he loves you when you guys are not together?

I don't know if you'll believe me when I tell you this but he's pretty much using you. Trust me, I have seen it happen so many times. Guys don't let out their feelings as easily as girls and they don't over analyze it like we do and go crazy over every little detail. For example if he always texts you 3 hearts and for some reason he texted you 2, we freak out. The way I see it, he probably feels the same way you do. But he's not going to admit it because guys have an overly large ego. They rather call it quits than stick around and work it out even when us girls know its not going to work, most of us rather stay because its comfertable and you afraid of always thinking if we made the worong choice by breaking up. He knows it not going to work, and even you know its not going to work. Guys in general are very manipulative. It seems like he doesn't really know what he wants and until he an figure it out hiself he wants to keep you in his leash. He doesn't want to be with you, but he doesn't want you getting over him just yet. There is no reason for himto text you "I Love You" Does he know what love is? If he "Loves" you, than why is he not with you? I'm sorry if this might sound harsh, but really, you don't need this bullsh**. You in probably the most difficult aspect of this break up. Confusion. Its hard for all of us to let go. For all of us. But we do it because we know we have to. But you don't know if you should keep trying or move on. All you know is that you want him. Well, we all wanted our exs back. But you need to stop embarrising yourself. Sorry but your going to look back and regreat for how you acted so stop now before you do something really out of hand. Your not going to get him back. No one should treat you like that. You not worth that crap. If you love something, let it go, if it comes back to you, its yours, if not, then it was never meant to be. Trust me you will surely find better cause he may not be the one. And when you let go, really let go. So IF he comes back you can think with a clear head. Right now you think he's the best thing ever, but pretty sure you'll start to notice that your perfect guy is not so perfect. You need to pick a decision and stick to it. Obviously getting him back is not working so just move on. Really move on. Time will heal.

Also, likei tell everyone else, and what happened to me as well,
We listen to other peoples advice, and it makes sense, you try to follow it but you get back to doing what you do. No one can help you in this, you know all this, you just want to hear it. You really got to get yourself out of this. Only you can do that. Sure cry, sure do whatever, let it out and heal. I really really reallyy want to advice you to not contact him. Don't snoop around. I know its hard. But he will realize what he has lost. You need to be completely away from him to know. But stay tru to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Love yourself. And move on and be happy. You may later talk to him if you wish, but not now. Deffinately now now.

I don't now how far you are in your stage, but read this, it helps, its helped a lot of us. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ed-123862.html

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