HI there folks, I'm new to all this, but have been on a few sites and seen the help and support that is offered and thought I could do with some of that, I an 25 and have been trying to conceive for 6 months, I have regular cycles of 33 days and have been doing all the recommeded charting etc, on my last cycle I was 2 weeks late and tested -ve with several hpts, when AF finally came it was normal except it was only 3 days and normally last 6, can anyone offer advise on how to adjust you charting after a longer cycle, do I not have to consider my cycles as 45 days?

Before we go any further let's find out if you are on any form of birth control. Birth control can really screw things up sometimes.

If you are, or were, what kind of birth control and how long? We will go from there.

Well my history is a bit complicated, I was on microgynen for about 4 years, until I fell pregnant in 2002, I had a termination at 9 1/2 weeks and was advised to go on the injection, I was on this for about 12 months and stopped in 2004, I then went on Jazmine, I stopped using birth control in February and my cycles were regular and 33 days, except for my recent 45 day cycle.

I had another af there last week and my cycle was back to 33 days, any clues on what's going on?

T

Sounds to me like it is just your body regulating back to your normal hormones. This could take a year or so.

Now on with trying to conceive. Is your husband ready for a baby? Are you ready for everything that comes along with motherhood?

There are a few steps that can be followed to help conceive, not hard, just kind of tedious in keeping a calendar and all. Let me know and we will go from there.

My fiancé and I are more than ready to go ahead, we have decided to put our wedding on hold as we take on the finanical and emotional commitment involved, it is time for us and we have been doing all we can, (I think)

My sister has just had her first baby and at 7 weeks we have been getting plenty of practice in as she has needed our support.

In the first few months of trying to conceive we were carefree and just let things happen after 3 months of trying (an both my sisters conceived after only 1 month) I began charting and reading up on the subject, I am currently taking folic acid suplements along with angus catus and evening primrose oil. I exersice 4 times a week and have a relatively healthy diet, I have cut my alcohol intake down to 2 glasses of wine a week and only for the 1st 2 weeks of my cycle just in case.

In my last 2 cycles I tested with opks and got postivie results so I assume I have been ovulating but these tests I hear aren't 100% accurate.

I have been to see the doctor but she advised that she can not refer me for teests until I have been trying for over 12 months, do you think my history of termination will present a problem with trying to conceive.

T

Why put your wedding on hold? The stress of that could be causing these problems. Also, remember that before marriage it is always easier for him to walk out after the baby is born.

Yes, I agree it is time for you... Time for you to get married, spend lots of time together, and get the finances in order.

I was not trying to be rude, but being pregnant and then having a baby takes a major toll on a relationship. You two really need to have a very strong bond before conceiving.

Having said that, you are at a very good age to begin wanting a child. Taking folic acid supplements is a very wise decision on your part. So, here are a few ways to help you out.

Now, when you ovulate, which is about 14 days after the first day of your last period, your egg is only viable (lives) for approximately 24 hours. In essence it only has 24 hours in which to be fertalized. Take away 6 hours for sleeping and you only have 18 hours per month in which to become pregnant. With those odds it is amazing that any woman gets pregnant!!

So, you and your husband can begin trying about 12 days into your cycle because sperm can live around 3 -4 days inside a woman waiting to fertalize an egg. Pretty wild isn't it?

So, going on here...

You only want to make love every other day. Do not do it every day as this tends to lessen the sperm count. Also, be must wear boxers, not briefs, and stay out of hot tubs and the like because heat tends to kill sperm.

Men are lucky in that their sperm regenerates itself in approx 90 days, us women are born with all the eggs we have, we cannot make more.

Your sister was one of the lucky ones in that she got pregnant as soon as she started trying. For most women the process takes 6 months to a year. So do not fret, if it is meant to be it will happen.

Now, seriously, take into consideration what I said about marrying first. Stress can cause miscarriages and problems conceiving. Get that stress out of the way first, spend some time with hubby to get to know each other as married people. Believe me there is still more to learn after you are married than you would ever believe.

I am not preaching here, only speaking from major life experience. I have been married twice and have 4 children.

something I throw out now and then, my wife had acupuncture for a diff issue and one of the side effects was increased fertility. Well now we have a 20 year old and a 2.5 year old. =) a good "oops"

just a thought. I think the "chi" talk is all mumbo jumbo, but the acupuncturist has done some pretty amazing stuff... as in stopping or dramatically reducing painful ovarian cysts and even once "starting" a period within 12 hours of treatment when my wife was going to need to do some traveling in the next week, but her cycle was so unpredictable...

so it's a thought. If my wife's guy says a treatment will help with something, I generally believe him. Cysts can interfere with conception, so no surprise her treatments helped with fertility.

one question... when you have intercourse your husband does have an ejaculation, right? Sounds like a stupid question, but there are cases where the male actually has a "dry" ejaculation... full orgasm, but it gets diverted to the bladder. So make sure there is semenal discharge, and I'm sure you know this... but it does happen and usually is discovered with conception issues.

if you are worried about a previous loss of pregnancy, there are cases where it occurs again, and often there is no real understanding of why a woman has a recurrent pregnant loss.

have you had this? I know that the 12 mo wout conceiving is a standard for testing, but it would seem to me that a previous loss would be grounds for testing? I'm only speculating. Someone who knows will have to correct or clarify.

I don' t think you rude at all, it's wise to cover all the basis and one can never give nicey nicey advise all the time, it doen't work that way, however, we are secure in our decision and are determined to continue, we have moved house, sorted our cars, cleared our finances and put away money for the wedding we are ready to concentrate on starting a family.

As I have a longer cycle I have been going on the assumption that I am ovualting later in the cycle about day 20, is this incorrect?