I am in a tough situation right now. My husband is cheating on me, he is an alcoholic, and takes all our money out of the bank. My hours at work were cut in half, so now I only have half my income. I don't have any money to pay for a divorce, and I don't want to loose my house. I am currently on probation for retail theft, and am seeing a therapist, my family and friends are telling me I'm crying out for help, which I believe I am. He has destroyed myself esteem and my feeling of worth. I have nowhere else to go, so what do I do?

Where did they get the idea you were crying out for help ? Just kidding.

I did my own divorce, bought a package, filled out the forms and sent it in. It cost me $500. If you want it bad enough, do it.

The first place to start is in the mirror. You need to look into your own eyes and say, out loud, "I love you. I really, really love you." Why am I suggesting you do this? Because the real issue, underneathe all of this stuff, is this: you need to love you enough to know that you deserve better than this and you do. Once you get to a place of truly loving yourself, you won't do things to hurt yourself and you won't allow people in your life who'll hurt you. Start by loving yourself, really, really loving yourself. Everything else, including the finances, will follow.

Unhappily Married

I am sorry that you are going through this mess. I agree with Tickle, There are ways that you can get a divorce cheap. I almost got a divorce a few years back and I was going to use the divorce store which all together would have cost 700. In the mean time I would stash money away without him knowing. I know it's going to be hard to do. Do you two have a joint account? If so I would take some money out little bits at a time and again stash it away. You always have to be two steps ahead of him. Now this is if you are serious about leaving him and think that there is no way to salvage your relationship. I understand that people are going to tell you to look in the mirror at yourself. Get out first then get yourself together. Are there any kids involved? You have to stay calm and play it as if everything is OK, then when he least expects it get out. Good luck.