Me and my boyfriend have a very healthy, loveable,caring relationship. He shows a lot of affection and he is always super sweet and super caring. He's always there for me, as well as I'm there for him and everything. We're eachother's priorities and we don't see each other everyday but in one week we see each other 2 or 3 times. Seeing each other everyday isn't something good either because people get tired of each other. But sometimes around my parents he doesn't show so much affection because he wants to respect them and stuff and I totallllllly agree on that, as well as I do the same with his parents.


But what I'm trying to ask here, is that I show maybe a little more affection and when I do, he doesn't really show THAT much back.


Do you think I'm forcing him away by loving him so much?

Not that he doesn't love me as much, he is the type of guy that doesn't show his emotions or feelings but with me he shows how much he loves me but I kind of show it more do to the fact that I show my emotions and such.


What do you guys think?

Am I forcing him away?

Its not unusual for the female to SHOW more affection than the guy. Maybe looking for him to show his affection as you do, has you wondering how he feels. Be more patient, and more secure, and observe his actions not just his words.

From what you have written, maybe you're a bit insecure, OR inexperienced with guys, but it sounds as if things are really great, and healthy.

How old are you both, and how long have you known each other? How well do you communicate? Are there other reasons for your fears? If so, can you be specific?

I think you are over reacting.

Ehh maybe I am. I've known him since I was 12 and he was 14. Now I'm 15 and he is 16 and we've been going out for 9 months. He treats me amazing, his family loves me, and the way he makes actions towards me are always positive. Maybe I am overreacting I just don't want to loose him. Im not insecure or inexperienced I'm just a really negative person... I don't have a low self esteem its just I always think of the bad things instead of the good :/

We're realllllllly close, we're not only boyfriend/girlfriend but we're best friends. We're comfty around each other always, and we're always ourself. Like when he comes over, we don't dress up and impress each other when that was already done in the beginning. We communicate perfectly fine. And No there isn't anything else of my fears but like I said, I'm just negative.

So really Ana, what do you want a pat on the back?

It sounds like everything is fine and you know it.

This is more than likely your first relationship and there is a lot to learn. Be glad that you have someone nice that you are comfortable with to share this with.

Stop over analyzing and looking for trouble because you will find it!

But I don't want to find it :/


I'm not looking for it I promise :(

Its just I really care for him, and if you guys had a girlfriend that treated you amazingggggggggg, would you ever get tired of that?

Ana,

For god's sake no one is going to tell you that you'll be together forever..

... maybe you will, maybe you won't!

I promise you I can't look into the future and tell you what will or won't happen.

But have a look at the other posts in this forum, most of the people are brokenhearted because they didn't see it coming, or they pulled away, or their boyfriend/girlfriend is just an a**hole.

Be happy that your happy.

At 15 ( you are 15 right? ) you shouldn't have to, or want to have all the answers. Just go with the flow, nothing is wrong. Stop questioning it.

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Originally Posted by Ana52408

its just i really care for him, and if you guys had a gf that treated you amazingggggggggg, would you ever get tired of that?

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Most women would not. But the problem most women have is when things are going well they need to create drama to spice things up. You better ask yourself, is the drama worth it. The answer from most guys is no. So don't rock the boat if everything is good. Also, your 15 so just enjoy the moment and learn from it.

You guys are right I guess... and yeah I'm 15. Drama is the lasstttt thing I wanttt. :/