There is this guy that I like. I met him when he applied for a job where I work. After he was hired me and him had gotten cool. I started liking him, so I decided to tell my brother about him. Me and my brother are very close so I tell him everything. While telling my brother about him, he realized he knew the guy. Apparently the went to the same high school, and was cool when they were in school. But all that changed once they started to hang with different cliques. My brother's clique and the guy's clique can't stand each other. I mean if they were left in a room together they wouldn't be civil for more than 10 minutes. So my brother told me that I couldn't be nothing more than cool with him. I mean I am well over the age of making my own decisions, but Im afraid that if we become more than friends that my brother and his clique will do something to the guy. I mean my brother already told me that he would kick the guy's . I find the whole situation to be stupid since I am 20 and my brother and the guy are 21, I mean we are old enough to make our own decision to be together or not. Now I haven't told the guy of the threats my brother has made, mostly because I don't want him to get mad and his clique go after my brother. I know the guy hangs out at a certain spot on the weekends, and sometimes I go only because I know he will be there. But sometimes my brother goes and I would hate to be there all in the guy's face and my brother walks up. I feel I shouldn't have to worry about if my brother get along with the guy that I like, because he doesn't bring his girls to me to see if I like them. He just brought a girl around me like a month or two ago and I have no choice to like her because she is carrying my nephew. What should I do?

Modern day Romeo and Juliet or West Side Story or whatever... while I'm not quite sure of the dynamics of where you live this is a really messed up situation you're in. If what you're saying is true, if you pursue a relationship with this guy there is a real chance of someone getting physically hurt or possibly worse.

My advice? Find another guy to date.. or move far, far away to where this kind of stupidity does not exist. I'm sure that you would not want to be responsible (even indirectly) for someone getting hurt. It's simply not worth the trouble or drama.

Both of these 'cliques' are being really stupidly immature.

Cliques that hate each other are gangs, and that mentality is trouble any way.

Is gang turf the only place to hang out? If it is forget this guy.

Find a much safer place to hang out, away from the gang environment, and your brother, which is not good for you any way.