I went out with this girl last year and we weren't that good of friends after we broke up. It didn't last long anyway.. but now I like her and just the other day I apolagized for all the times I wronged her and for not treating right before. Before my friend made me a bet I couldn't get her and I did but after a week or so I really started liking her (last year) and I couldn't tell her and I wasn't treating her right so it ended kind of quick. I told her when we were in a fight because I am a dumbass. That was also last year, the other day I apolagized and she was all like "awww its okay thanks for saying sry" and I have a locker right next to her and her best friend. Her best friend knows I have changed a lot and is really cool. Im liking her and her boyfriend is older and the kid who all the girls think is wicked wicked hot and . I have a feeling she's bored with him but she claims she goes to his house kind of a lot. We text everyday and talk everyday. I had an old phone that had texts on it from last year and it was kind of funny to see them so I brought it into school and wrote her a long note saying "Dont take this as me hitting on you, I know you have a boyfriend so don't take this the wrong way but its rare to find someone as nice as you are and thanked her for being nice to me when I didn't deserve it. I think she's happy with her boyfriend but I'm not completely sure. Idk what to do guys! I sound like a complete idiot but I can't figure her out and need help asap... thanks sooo much if you can help me out, should I just forget about her or..

Well if you say she is with someone right now then I would leave it alone. I would stay good friends with her as long as her new boyfriend is OK with that. You never know this realationship that she has now might end. Then in that case it would be OK to pursue. For now keep your cool as well as your distance, and what ever was meant to be will be.

arnimal7 is right. You need to have respect for her already existing relationship. If she's bored with her guy, they'll break up eventually. Things will work out the way they should.

I would stay friends with her even if he didn't like it, I could take this kid if it really came down to it.. I figured that I should let it be and wait for them to end; ill probably wait a month or so I don't know, but she isn't answering my texts and I can see her looking over at me throughout the day.. she has a dude best friend or w/e and she perposely talks to him when I'm near them or in class with them and only really when I'm there. She also stopped answering my texts and everything.. so we were passing notes in class (sounds immature but my phone was dead) and I said I need help and that I can't figure out a girl and I feel like she's leading me on but I don't know.. what should I do? She said call/text her a lot and ask her to hang out whenever I can then asked who and I told her "I will tell you who it is if it works out." and that was basically it. I sent her a text this afternoon saying something like "do you have anymore advice?" and she didn't reply of course.. I don't know I might throw in the towel and forget about it and move on but she's just so different than what I'm use to, I went out with her before but she's changed. I respect the whole couple thing its pretty much like a guy code to not go after her if you are friends but I don't talk to the kid and I don't know what to do.. ill probably just do what you said and see how it works out

Well lets not get all crazy. What I mean by that is your response about talking to her even id he doesn't like it and TAKING him out if it came down to it. The last thing you need is to get in trouble. Not to mention this is not her new boyfriends fault at all. I understand that you are frustrated. So my advice to you is to get over it, move on. If she wants to break it off with her boyfriend and pursue you, then so be it. You say that she's not reasponding to your text messages then you should take it as a sign that she doesn't want you. So take your pride and dignity and walk away.

My friend told me her and her boyfriend broke up so I started texting her all night and the morning the she stopped all of a sudden, she told me they are having a "break" and he is starting to lose feelings for him and she doesn't want anyone else and I think its because she really likes him but it's a window of opportunity and she says he is her life and I don't know I'm trying and she says thanks with smiley faces and stuff so she apriciates it but this feels like a lost cause

I've been in a similar situation such as you are currently in... the way I dealt with it- I didn't! Sometimes you have to let nature run it's course, and then sometimes you have to go out and chase what you want. It sounds like you've already had your chance with this girl. You didn't blow it obviously, it just didn't work out the way that you wanted it to. I am more than sure she knows that you still have the hots for her. Since you are both on friendly terms and she trusts you, you shouldn't want to put that in jeopardy. Leave her alone, give her some time. If you still feel strongly for her, and she's still with the guy in a month, you should act on it. Right now, just wait it out (It's hard, trust me, I know). Be cool :)

I know all this texting and stuff is the way things are done by kids your age... I'm having to get used to it myself since I'm dating again after a divorce. But man, it's a little crazy. People want to totally understand where the other person is at, who they are, what they feel, whether they are open to a relationship, how serious a relationship... before they go on a date. It puts the other person in a rough spot because it's not just a decision to accept one date, but a decision to commit to a whole relationship!

So, instead, I'd suggest a different approach moving forward. Leave her alone for a while with the texting, but when you see her, just smile and say "hi". If she texts you, fine - respond with a light, friendly response. If she responds again, ask if you can talk to her in person... don't make it a big deal but, "hey, can I stop by your locker after class? Will you be there?"

Then go to the girls locker and invite her on a date. Don't make a ton of explanations and what ifs and wherefores... just keep it casual and simple, like, "Hey, Sarah...I wanted to ask you to a movie this weekend, and didn't want to be a doofus and ask you by text. What do you say? I get the feeling you could use some laughs?" If she says, "I don't know", then just say, "Oh, come on...how about I pick you up at 6 Saturday. We can get something to eat and grab a paper to decide on a movie. Ok?"

And then have a few dates or just hang out together before you get into disclosing the whole world of your feelings and emotions and all that stuff... too much, too soon creates too much pressure.

Take care!

All right, I didn't check this and I don't know I just did whatever I thought I should do.. she is obsessed with her boyfriend and I called her one night while they were on a break(they are back together now) and she told me one of the biggest reasons she is obsessed with him is because he was her first.. she also said that he said they were going to get back together so I told her everything; she didn't have much to say but that was it. I have a locker right next to her so I see her everyday and she started getting why so I ignored her. Im over her but she still stares at me in class.. hahah its w/e when they break up again(prob soon) I won't be a fallback, I'm gone haha. I would have treated her better for longer than anyone else but hey what can you do right but thanks anyway guys

Right now isn't the time for her to be with anyone because as you stated she is "obessed" with her ex so that means she isn't over him. You don't want to get caught up in her mess right now.

I think you need to move forward. We all sometimes want what we can have or what to rekindle something we had with someone in the past especially if it was you who mistreated her or didn't appreciate it at the time.

However given the current circumstances this isn't the time so move forward and this time appreciate the person your with and no more bets with your friends. Know what you want and be willing to give the same. Good Luck because there are still some nice girls left.