I had a one night stand 16 years ago. Three years after the event I was hit with a child support order. Our love match was in July and the twins born in February at a great weight of over 6lbs each. Ten years after their birth, I meet the little darlings and was introduced as their father. Just two years ago the mother ask me to be active in the children lives and I begin to travel over several states to see them as much as possible. In May of 2008 at the request of the mother I sign the birth certificate and the affidavit as their father after 16 years. Is it too late to get a DNA test. The mother do not want me to, so can I take my son (we get alone well) and have the test done without the mother's permission? They live with the mother. What rights do I have if any. I pay child support but have no visitation rights except when she lets me come by for a little rump around with her. I just want to know if these are my kids.

You can take a home DNA test. But it will not be admissible in court.

Why did you not ask for a paternity test when she first filed for child support? Why didn't the court order one? Why didn't you ask for visitation?

You could have filed for visits though the court years ago, why don't you do that

At the time when first served, I was deployed over seas in the military. I filled out a form with DFCS requesting a determination of Paternity but was told once the Affidavit was signed they could not process a request to the courts on my behalf. I thought that once I signed the birth certificate (for the sake of the children self esteem) and filed the affidavit, I received the same rights as the mother. I just finished a hearing in court with the mother for increase child support. The hearing officer would not hear any issue but how much we made in salary. Would I be breaking the law, if when my son and I are together again, just getting a DNA test - just for my knowledge.

O yes, I could get an attorney at the fee of $3500. Too much right now.

If you have Joint legal custody you can do the test, if not, then you may get in trouble.

If she filed for support there is a way for you to get a DNA test. The courts generally do not allow it ,but if you can give a sufficient reason such as I did not know that at the time I thought they were mine and now I have found out they may not be. Then give a reason for why they may not be. I went through this with my ex. I was with him for three years helping to take care of his handicapped brother. He and I both knew my son was his ,but he decided he no longer wanted to pay child support ,s o he went into court claiming that two of his friend stold him that my son could alsdo , be theirs. The judge asked me if I had a reason not to have a paternity test I said no. And the court ordered the parternity test and took the payment out of his wages, with the understanding that if he was not the father I had yto pay him back. The test came back positive, but he refused to pay for the results to mailed to him, so even though I have proff he is the father he still claims my son is not his. But as I have said there are ways. A hospital will also, do DNa testing if there are certain medical problems in the parents history. These are admissible in court.

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Originally Posted by Lady Drace

if she filed for support there is a way for you to get a DNA test. The courts generally do not allow it ,but if you can give a sufficient reason such as I did not know that at the time I thought they were mine and now I have found out they may not be. Then give a reason for why they may not be. I went through this with my ex. I was with him for three years helping to take care of his handicapped brother. He and I both knew my son was his ,but he decided he no longer wnated to pay child support ,s o he went into court claiming that two of his friend stold him that my son could alsdo , be theirs. tThe judge asked me if I had a reason not to have a paternity test I said no. And the court ordered the parternity test and took the payment out of his wages, with the understanding that if he was not the father I had yto pay him back. The test came back positive, but he refused to pay for the results to mailed to him, so even though I have proff he is the father he still claims my son is not his. But as I have said there are ways. A hospital will also, do DNa testing if there are certain medical problems in the parents history. These are admissable in court.

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This doesn't sound right but there is a lot missing here. Under most circumstances uness there is outright fraud occurring so long as there is a legal father that is paying support and then there is a challenge.. they would or should only ask for the support to be given back from the filing date. Were you married to this person ?