Me and my ex boyfriend have been split up for about 6 months now. We've been together and broken up about 7 times. Im not really sure why. I know I'm really the only real girlfriend he's had. And he's never gotten really close or went all the way with anyone. I think mabe he's afraid? Well I've never stopped loving him. And a few months after we break up, we always end up getting back together. Well for the past couple weeks, we have been getting really close again. He's flirting with me again, and we're talking all the time. Like we also do before we get back together. Well every time before we go back out, he says its not going to happen again. But it always does. So of course now that we're getting closer, he's telling me its not worth it and that its not going to happen. I don't know what to do or believe. Is it really not going to happen again, or has he still loved me all these times, but is just afraid of comentment?

Why are you putting your life on hold for this guy who obviously is afraid of commitment and doesn't care if he leads you on? If it was me, I'd cut my losses - you did try 7 times... - and move on.

You have to think about what this is doing to you and not worry about if he wants you back or not.

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he says its not going to happen again. But it always does.

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Of course it will happen again, what makes you think it won't?

He can't be afraid of commintment with the same person SEVEN times. This cycle of breaking up and getting back together is NOT healthy. The question is not if he wants you back... it's why do you want him back? Why not find someone that is going to want to stay with you throughout the entire duration of the relationship. Is your pain worth getting back with him and perhaps risking breaking up again? Is this guy that amazing that you are willing to endure heartbreak multiple times? And how do you know that he hasn't gone all the way with someone else? I'm sure you couldn't have been there all the time to be certain of that.

How old are you?

What grade?