Hello, I need help big time,, my boy friend and I have been together for 6 years, I have a ring.. And so does he, he goes away every winter for 2 to 3 months, because of the weather here in Rhodie island, well this year he left the 1st of Jan, since he's been gone, he has not treated my very respectfully at all, nothing but fighting, all the time, every time I tried to call him it was an issue,, then he started shouting of the phone, for days at a time, two months have gone bye, and he calls me yesterday, and told me he's on his way home,, and that he loved me but, he's moving back to his moms house,, and he left it at that,, after explaining to me all that I did wrong,, what the hell is going on with him?? Hes never treated me like this before, and I'm so heart broken,, when he left he took most of his cloths with him, but still has very few things here,, and he want me to drop them off to him,, what do I do,, thank you for your help, dona:(

What do you mean he leaves because of the weather? Where does he go? You both have rings? Are you married, or engaged... promise rings?

From the sounds of it, he is extremely angry at something, and perhaps taking it out on you... I don't know, I need a bit more info... just a hunch... it is bad times fiscally...

Put his stuff in a garbage bag and set it on the porch and change the locks. Explain why he leaves in the winter and where he goes and why you put up with his disrespectful BS?

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Originally Posted by kctiger

What do you mean he leaves because of the weather? Where does he go? You both have rings? Are you married, or engaged...promise rings?

From the sounds of it, he is extremely angry at something, and perhaps taking it out on you...I don't know, I need a bit more info...just a hunch...it is bad times fiscally...

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He leaves in the winter because of his job, due to the weather, they move state to state, and we have never been married, but live as are married, and yes we got engaged 2 years ago.. well at least I thought we where, thank you ofr your help dona

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Put his stuff in a garbage bag and set it on the porch and change the locks. Explain why he leaves in the winter and where he goes and why you put up with his disrespectful BS?

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Well I would like to put his stuff out on the porch, but need to know I'm doing the right thing here for the right reasons, he leaves in the winter because of his job, $, why do I put up with it well I'm trying not too, but need to be sure in what I'm doing here is right or wrong. Thank you for your help, god bless

His actions speak for themselves. You deserve better than a guy who goes home to mama, rather than come home to you. What's that all about?

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Put his stuff in a garbage bag and set it on the porch and change the locks. Explain why he leaves in the winter and where he goes and why you put up with his disrespectful BS?

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Well when u look at it that way, your right!! Thank u,:)

How old are you two?

Also, at this point put his stuff on the porch and tell him to pick it up if he wants it. At this point the relationship is over, so you are doing the right thing. He has lost the right to have you worry about what he thinks.