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  • Feb 24, 2009, 04:49 AM
    summertyme
    When men are quiet
    When men are too shy to speak. They show an obvious interest in a woman. They do not speak to you unless you start the conversation first. The response thereafter is almost monosyllabic but not deliberate as they are obviously just quiet. They show annoyance or frustration when you ignore them or don't pay them as much attention because they are waiting for your attention.
    I don't think the woman should make any advances. She tries to say hello and start a conversation etc but the man is so quiet.

    There is an attraction though especially from him to her.

    To be or not to be, what do you think?
  • Feb 24, 2009, 06:43 AM
    kctiger

    What is the question here?

    What am I supposed to answer "to be or not to be" for?
  • Feb 24, 2009, 06:55 AM
    talaniman

    Don't worry about what the guy is feeling, if you can't handle shy, quiet guys, then don't mess with them.
  • Feb 24, 2009, 06:56 AM
    kctiger

    Ahhh... I got it. Girl likes shy guy, girl doesn't know if shy guy truly likes her, girl is also worried about how to read shy guy...

    Girl accepts shy guy for who he is, and they enjoy eachother's company...
  • Feb 24, 2009, 07:29 AM
    ISneezeFunny

    I love the stereotype. There are shy guys, there are also not-so-shy guys who will approach you. If I see you somewhere in public, and I'm interested in you, trust me, I'll approach you.
  • Feb 24, 2009, 10:08 AM
    summertyme
    [QUOTE I'll approach you.[/QUOTE]

    That's my point. Can a guy be so shy that he may really like you and never tell you. Why would they risk that?
  • Feb 24, 2009, 10:10 AM
    Justwantfair

    It's called the fear of rejection, we all have it, it just effects some stronger than others.
  • Feb 24, 2009, 10:11 AM
    spitvenom
    [/QUOTE]That's my point. Can a guy be so shy that he may really like you and never tell you. Why would they risk that?[/QUOTE]

    Afraid of being rejected. Thinks he will embarrass himself. Or he really just doesn't like the person.
  • Feb 24, 2009, 10:41 AM
    summertyme
    Quote:

    That's my point. Can a guy be so shy that he may really like you and never tell you. Why would they risk that?
    Quote:

    Afraid of being rejected. Thinks he will embarrass himself.
    But he's a guy! That is what I don't understand. What about when girls make the approach and then the guy treats them like nothing!

    He obviously likes her but its not right for the girl to keep on trying, no?
  • Feb 24, 2009, 10:44 AM
    Justwantfair

    I feel like I am reading in circles...

    Is your problem that he is shy so you have approached him to ask him out and he is not responsive?

    Why do you believe that he obviously likes her?
  • Feb 24, 2009, 10:47 AM
    spitvenom

    Wait if the girl keeps trying and the guy does not respond to her what makes you think he likes her? If he is shy and the girl makes the first move then usually the shyness goes away if he still acts the same I would think he is not interested in her.
  • Feb 24, 2009, 10:59 AM
    summertyme
    Quote:

    Why do you believe that he obviously likes her?
    Well, on thinking about that I guess you are absolutely right. General observations from life on how people show interest can lead to assumptions. He DOES show agitation when he does not get her attention, and he wants to draw her attention but he doesn't speak.

    Men are difficult to read. She doesn't want to seem bothered but can be when he shows these mixed messages. But no one knows what he is thinking.
  • Feb 24, 2009, 11:05 AM
    Justwantfair

    She needs to stop analyzing in third person because it makes her posts VERY difficult to follow. We are not here to decifer posts written in code. Please make your post more clear to understand.

    Furthermore, if I can not understand your post, it is not surprising that you have difficulty understanding others. Are your communications skills the same verbally as they are in written communication?
  • Feb 24, 2009, 01:10 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    General observations from life on how people show interest can lead to assumptions.
    Assumptions and presumptions lead to false hope and high expectations.

    Be direct with questions you have, and stop trying to read minds.
  • Feb 24, 2009, 03:18 PM
    summertyme
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Assumptions and presumptions lead to false hope and high expectations.

    Be direct with questions you have, and stop trying to read minds.

    Oh well. I guess because I may not have told you the whole story (which you obviously would not understand) 'just want fair' and 'talaniman' and perhaps other are hypocritically doing exactly what they are accusing me of, making judgements. Typical. Its all become a matter of your perceptions and ignorance.

    But its just your opinion not God's and He is the best one to ask in future not the futile wisdom of man not this forum.

    I repent, my mistake.

    All the best
  • Feb 24, 2009, 03:28 PM
    Justwantfair

    Tal and myself are not being hypocritical, but we do require a COMPLETE story to make the most accurate analysis.

    It was clear that you were trying to walk around issues and talk in circles that didn't make sense, but if you want help you have to give complete stories for an accurate response. We aren't here to put together the pieces and make sense of things that just don't make sense.

    If you would like we are still here willing to hear a COMPLETE story that includes ALL relevant details so we can make sense of it all.
  • Feb 24, 2009, 04:05 PM
    talaniman

    Quote:

    Oh well. I guess because I may not have told you the whole story (which you obviously would not understand)
    I doubt you can come up with anything in your life, I have never dealt with, so give up the facts, and stop diddling around, so we can all stop assuming, and presuming.

    Sorry you don't like what you hear, but if your not going to be honest, and forthright, about what's the real deal, what do you expect from strangers?

    Maybe that's your problem, an inability to communicate your feelings, and ideas. What's stopping you?

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