People keep saying that the solution to relationship problems is seeking professional counsel. I can't afford even $50 a hour. (Not that you could find a good one for that.) There has to be another way. Any ideas? Church isn't one. He won't go there.

There are free services here, if you are near the campus:

University of North Texas Dallas Campus : UNT Dallas Campus offers free counseling services for students, community

This is offered to anyone.

You might want to consider going on your own if he won't go.

Also, there are professional counsellors here too, if you want to share a little more, perhaps you'd get some good advice.

Every state in the US that I know of have services provided according to income And you get very good professional people.

Also there are many religious couselors ( if you are a religious person) that offers a sliding scale according to your income levels.

Often the problem is that one side or the other does not like what the counselor has to say.