My ex... after being with me through all of high school... the week after we break up he starts dating another chick... I went NC started to heal and such and then like months later he calls up and we chat to get some stuff out and he says that he wants to marry me later in life but he wants to experience other relationships first. And I was like... cool.. me too I mean technically I still love him. But now this new relationship has come into my life. And I just can't do it! Every time I get a new fantastic guy who wants to buy me the moon I can do it but how can my ex just move straight onto this new girl and say he still wants me? How can I let go? Ive gone nc... is it just time? Ive been committed single but I feel like maybe the next step is to allow myself to take another shot at love... is this wise? Its been about 4 months since the break up.

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I would say if you have to ask it is not wise just yet to have a new relationship. Get out there and start dating and having fun with that but there is no need to focus on 'love' straight away.

It sounds like this boy wants the best of both worlds, to go out and have his freedom but to have you waiting in the background for him when he's done. You are better than this.

We all move on in our own ways. If this is what he decided to do it has nothing to do with, and should not affect your decisions because he is no longer art of your life... THAT is what NC is for.

You've done the hardest part already by sticking to NC. Just give it time and try to have fun while your at it!

You are allowing him to stir up old feelings by chatting with him and getting stuff out, in the meantime he gets to boink whomever because your still responding to his crap. Go back to NC and ignore him, and give yourself sufficient time to really heal.

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Ive gone nc..

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And you broke it too soon, now go back to it.

Go NC and stick to it, you keep picking at the scabs, these things take time to heal

Agreed stick to NC... keep up the dating thing and doing you, you never know who may come around and make you forget all about your ex and what he is up to. I am in a similar position as you right now, it sucks but when someone new comes around that has this affect on you, you will realize it was all worth it. =)

I really have to pay attention to the dates of these posts... my bad haha

Lol,:-)

Haha now you are just rubbing it in amicon