Hey guys, I'm having sum real issues that are making me depressed. I have been single for quite awhile and during that time had a few sexual encounters, but never full sex due to feeling really nervous before hand, I had this in my first relationship, but she was a really nice girl who I rel liked and we worked through and had a strong relationship for the most part of a year, I'm now 20.. but since being single I haven't had the confidence to have sex with a new girl. Last night a girl who I went out on my first date with Friday (which was really nice) came out with me to town, and ended up staying over mine, she was hinting at sex, but my nerves got the better of me, and I wasn't feeling very confident with her yet, and I told her, id like to wait so it doesn't seem like we are just hooking up and that's the end of it. I don't know why I said this, because she is really attractive, and being with someone new would have really helped me move on from my ex, who left me very confused about what I done wrong, and effected my confidence badly.
This girl who stayed round last night, now doesn't seem sure if she wants to see me again. I feel like myself worth has been hit, due to not being the red blooded male that she really wanted me to be.
How can deal with this situation? So I can go into something new with the right attitude, I honestly feel that as I meet girls with more experience it is harder and harder to find someone willing to help me get over these nerves, which is so frustrating because I used to love sex. But I also feel guilty for bringing these issues onto a new partner (if I get one) because they just want to have fun, and so do I.
Thxs