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  • Feb 21, 2009, 10:57 PM
    8brotwerst
    Would it be mean if I dated my ex's brother?
    I went out with a sophomore my senior year of high school, he was 17 I was 18. It was sort of weird because he is one of my brother;s best friends, and when my brother's friends came over he wanted to talk to me and not the guys. We hooked up once and then he kind of started ignoring me, didn't call me so I dumped him. He didn't give, I was annoyed, so it was mutual. It was only about 5 weeks we were together.

    We both ended up going on a school trip to europe last summer. I tried beign nice to him because I knew it might be awkward. He was a complete to me the whole time and just flat out ignored me. I offered to give him pix from my camera because he lost his and he just groaned and walked away. So I thought it would be funny to be mean back by being nice, extreeemely nice in a snide way.
    Then he started telling people "yeah, i think she came on this trip to get my attention, i think she still likes me alot" oh hell no. so I went up to him, let him ignore me again and said "did you know i spent thousands of dolars and came all the way to this foreign continent JUST to get your attention? conceited bastard." from then on he was feeling quite humbled I could tell, I don't know if I was too mean, and just trying to save my reputation in saying that. We were in the same row on the flight home, so we talked a little about in-flight movies and now I haven't seen him since August. It has been a year and one month since we broke up(there wasn't much to break).

    He has an older brother my age who went to a different school who I knew but hadn't seen for 2 years. I talk to him now, and there seems to be some chemistry, I don't know for sure, but if something did happen, does that make me a bad person?

    Am I a slut, a total , or just awkward? :confused: I told the situation how it is with all honesty, as far as I could see. Please tell me, given the story I told you, how you would feel:

    - about dating a girl who already dated your younger brother?
    -if your older sister dated your friend and he talked to her more than you when he was at your house?
    -if you dated a girl and then she started dating your older brother?
  • Feb 21, 2009, 11:03 PM
    Emo_Anna

    There's nothing wrong with that you simply thought you found the one then he ended up being a jerk and now your kind of getting to know his brother who right now seems to be a nice guy.
  • Feb 21, 2009, 11:07 PM
    neverme

    Have no story... but WELL DONE on what you said to him LMAO!!

    I think that IF something happens with his brother then it's as much his decision as it is yours, and if you think he's worth it, go for it!

    Life is too short, and as you said there was f' all to break up anyway.


    Seriously though, LMAO on the comment :D
  • Feb 21, 2009, 11:11 PM
    8brotwerst
    Seriously though, LMAO on the comment :D[/QUOTE]



    Lol thanks, I was quite proud of myself there too. But I have no idea if this guy knows I dated his brother... so... I don't know how he will react

    But I agree w u, thanks for the advice
  • Feb 21, 2009, 11:11 PM
    8brotwerst
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Emo_Anna View Post
    Theres nothing wrong with that you simply thought you found the one then he ended up being a jerk and now your kinda gettin to know his brother who right now seems to be a nice guy.


    That's how I feel, but I don't know,
  • Feb 21, 2009, 11:29 PM
    Emo_Anna
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by 8brotwerst View Post
    thats how i feel, but idk,

    See really you shouldn't let some jerk get in your way or "run" your love life so
    If you want that other guy then hell go for it! :p
  • Feb 22, 2009, 09:43 PM
    talaniman

    Your not a slut, but good luck with dealing with an exes brother, it is very awkward. So if he doesn't know about you, and little bro, tell him before something does happen.
  • Feb 22, 2009, 09:46 PM
    neverme

    Ya I agree with Tal be the one to say it to him.

    It will make things a lot easier and you get to choose the situations it's said in... doesn't have to be as much drama

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