My partner wants time to think, I did something she thought was very bad and now can't believe me that it was only out of curiosity I did it. I looked at a wink from a dating site that we originally met on. She thinks I am still looking although have not been subscribed since we met 11 months ago, I just did not delete my profile.
We were so devoted to each other I even saw her through her pregnancy and have had 4 months with her son, (from another man). Total devotion I gave her just to seemingly ruin it by doing what I did.
Any advice would be appreciated as she wants time to think etc etc, what does this mean with a woman?

This is not all your fault, as it seems she over reacted, but delete the account any way, and hope she comes to her senses. Leave her alone for a while, and give the emotional dust a chance to settle.

Maybe its just me but I feel like women need time to think "alone" because the men in their lives cloud their judgement with the feelings involved. So being alone allows them to focus more on the problem at hand.

Good point. But I think the problem has dissolved a little, now as I got three e-mails yesterday on "nothing really" just free stuff going on a web site I might be intrested in and that she was going to beach and would be in "touch in the near future".
I am having to be very strong not to message or anything at the moment and everything I see seems to make me think of her.

Everything reminds me of my ex, and I still love her and want to be with her. Everything from my clothes, my car, the bars around here, the TV shows I watch. I made a decision to do volunteer work for a month in the Caribbean to get away from everything here. She needs to clear her head, why not do the same by taking a little trip or hanging out with the guys?

It is hard to stop yourself from contacting her, but let her have her time to think for now. She doesn't seem like she is going to cut off contact, so just leave it for the time being as she's asked.

I'm thinking that since she was likely in a bad relationship with her baby's father, that she picks up on the little things, because she doesn't want to be hurt like she was before.

Just give her some time, and when she comes back around, show her that you have deleted your account, and that the only one you are interested in is her.

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Everything reminds me of my ex, and i stil love her and want to be with her. Everything from my clothes, my car, the bars around here, the tv shows i watch. I made a decision to do volunteer work for a month in the Caribbean to get away from everything here. She needs to clear her head, why not do the same by taking a little trip or hanging out with the guys?

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Did you do anything to try to win her back and was it appreciated or just thrown out of the water. I have devoted my last 11 months to her and her new child, she has said recently that she has never met someone as caring as me every and so devoted especially to someone else's child (4 months old, work that on out) and that I did everything I could to make things perfect for them for so long.
I am going nuts here...

I tried everything. For now she just wasn't willing to work it out like me. I pleaded, begged, showed up drunk, gave her flowers. I did everything that I shouldn't have done for 3 weeks, and all it did was push her away. It ended with a bad text from her last week saying she didn't accept my apology, I'm out of control and that this is done and I have completely turned her off. She hasn't talked to me since. If I had stumbled upon this site 1 month ago, and taken the advice of giving her the space that she needed, id probably be waking up at her house right now. The last thing I told her was that I respected her decision and am supportive of her actions. She's pretty much erased me from her life, but I treated her with so much respect, love and care I'm confident that she will come back around despite what happened. If not, Oh well her loss. Im a great guy, she told me that, and all her friends were jealous she had a well rounded guy like me. But if you did all that you say you have done. She has probably acknowlegded that. Just be patient and don't make the same mistake like I did and try to pressure her into giving you answers.

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Did you do anything to try to win her back and was it appreciated or just thrown out of the water. I have devoted my last 11 months to her and her new child, she has said recently that she has never met someone as caring as me every and so devoted especially to someone elses child (4 months old, work that on out) and that I did everything I could to make things perfect for them for so long.
I am going nuts here..........

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Listen to what "heartbroke" just said. Try and do something to keep yourself busy. Don't make yourself crazy over this. This will not help you. I don't know what your interests or hobbies are, but go to the gym, go out with some friends who are supportive, read a good book, invite some buddies over and watch a movie! Anything you can do right now that is a distraction. Going out to a bar and getting drunk is not likely a good idea, because as "heartbroke" mentioned, only got him in more trouble. Your feelings are elevated, and you don't have as much control as you do when you're sober. Just don't call her right now. I know the minutes tick by like hrs. but if you call and screw it up, those single minutes will seem like days.

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Listen to what "heartbroke" just said. Try and do something to keep yourself busy. Don't make yourself crazy over this. This will not help you. I don't know what your interests or hobbies are, but go to the gym, go out with some friends who are supportive, read a good book, invite some buddies over and watch a movie! Anything you can do right now that is a distraction. Going out to a bar and getting drunk is not likely a good idea, because as "heartbroke" mentioned, only got him in more trouble. Your feelings are elevated, and you don't have as much control as you do when you're sober. Just don't call her right now. I know the minutes tick by like hrs., but if you call and screw it up, those single minutes will seem like days.

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I am in a rock covers band and its practice day tomorrow so that will be good. DVD tonight is what I planned anyway and I am not going to pressurise her as I have said all from my heart I can muster anyway. She said 2 weeks, only one to go now. Thanks for the tips, if you want check out our web site Eclipse Home I made the site, my first so see what you think. Thanks

Yea drinking is a no no. All it does is give you idiotic liquid confidence. I said the dumbest things that didn't make sense, only to upset her more. Plus it makes you over analyze things. These days are still long and agonizing. I lost 18lbs. I didn't do it to myself, I just lost my appetite. But I've been feeling better because of what I have coming for me. 1 month of sun and beach with an estranged family. Vent out here, talk it out with people and in between that keep yourself busy. Rent a whole dvd season series if you have to. I don't have work till spring. So my days are really long. If you initiate contact, she will feel like she has to start her thinking process over without being disturbed. Think of it as solving a complex math problem. If she's in the middle of solving it and you interrupt her with a "hello'', she's going to be pissed off and have to start over again, making this process longer.

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I am in a rock covers band and its practice day tomorrow so that will be good. DVD tonight is what I planned anyway and I am not going to pressurise her as I have said all from my heart I can muster anyway. She said 2 weeks, only one to go now. Thanks for the tips, if you want check out our web site Eclipse Home I made the site, my first so see what you think. Thanks

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I want to hear the tunes! I can't click on anything where I can listen. I would love to hear it! My Dad owned one of the biggest music stores in Canada, and my whole family has been centered around music all of our lives. My brother is in a really cool band. His website is www.coldshotband.ca

Can you tell me how I can listen to your music? Did I miss something I can click on?

Edit: Sorry, I don't know why the website is bringing up something else.

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I want to hear the tunes! I can't click on anything where I can listen. I would love to hear it! My Dad owned one of the biggest music stores in Canada, and my whole family has been centered around music all of our lives. My brother is in a really cool band. His website is www.coldshotband.ca

Can you tell me how I can listen to your music? Did I miss something I can click on?

Edit: Sorry, I don't know why the website is bringing up something else.

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Go to the demos/recordings page 4 tracks on there via Windows Media Player...

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go to the demos/recordings page 4 tracks on there via Windows Media Player.......

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Can't connect to your brothers site either, maybe type address in direct, wubulu wubulu wubulu dot eclipse minus rockcovers dot eu

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cant connect to your brothers site either, maybe type address in direct, wubulu wubulu wubulu dot eclipse minus rockcovers dot eu

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Whoa, I was listening to your music and my computer completely crashed!

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Whoa, I was listening to your music and my computer completely crashed!

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What did you think before that happened, obviously working again now...

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what did you think before that happened, obviously working again now......

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It took me a while to view. I don't know what happened. I loved it! I think you guys are great! Some very good cover songs. I was surprised to see that Chris Rea sang that one song. I remember an old 70's song of his. I hope you get a lot of gigs! ;) What is your part in the band?

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It took me a while to view. I don't know what happened. I loved it! I think you guys are great! Some very good cover songs. I was surprised to see that Chris Rea sang that one song. I remember an old 70's song of his. I hope you get alot of gigs! ;) What is your part in the band?

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I am the bass player. We never stopped last year. This year is a bot slow so far but it will pick up again. Do you play at all?

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I am the bass player. We never stopped last year. This year is a bot slow so far but it will pick up again. Do you play at all?

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I play keyboards. Haven't played in awhile though. My bro plays anything you hand him, and all by ear. He's the drummer in his band, and also sings and plays keyboards, and picks up the bass, acoustic, or electric, depending on the song. They are country rock, with the emphasis on rock/alternative a lot of times. I looked at the drum kit in the pics. You would absolutely looove my bro's drum kit. ;)

Edit: My Dad has one of the very first Fender Strats that was ever made, sent to him as a gift from Fender.

My partner who loved me dearly and I her, wants time to think after a mistake I made. I think this has now dissolved into "what happened" and she has asked for two weeks to think. The sends 3 mails about nothing really. I want to respond but she has asked me not to. Why if she wants time to think things over has she done this...