Me and my girl we been dating for about 5 months. She has been through a hell of a lot in the past. heartbroken and cheated on. I come on the scene and I treat her properly. We see each other once a month because she we find it hard to make time. Anyway after are 5 months she started acting off with me and I go Ive always told her if she ain't happy she should end it and I will be all right with it. Anyway after 5 months she does and we do end it. She send a MSG saying your not the one for me and I'm not the one for you, I'm going to miss you loads blah blah. Anyway for a whole month we apart. She comes back she starts crying and begging me to come back. I really didn't even want to come back, I told her I needed time to fink and I when I got back with her I go to her she needs to sort herself out. She promises she would and we get back together and the first months great and we saw each other once a week. Then came the second month and she busy and we can't find time to see each other. She says the vibe has gone, obviously I told her the vibe is going to go if we don't see each other, she says she starting to find me irritating. I give her so much space you wouldn't believe it, I even told her lets break up if your not happy, I said it plenty of times, because I didn't love her. Yet ill miss her but it ain't the end of the world. She says no lets have a break. I mean that's what you call mad in the head.

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How old are you both? Doesn't sound like you work together that well to me.

You and this girl is obivious going around in circles and the two of you are no good for one another because of her own issues. You need nothing wrong but tried to make this work and treated her how she was suppose to be treated but she couldn't accept that because she is used to being treated like dirt and became use to that kind of treatment.

Sometimes females want a good guy but don't know what to do when they get one but screw them over. No need to be confused by her action or ways because it's obivious she don't want you because again she isn't use to guys like you.

Time to let go and move on instead of being trapped into someone else's confusion. She done hurt you enough so find someone who is going appreciate a guy like you and don't take her back no matter how hard she begs because believe she will.

She is just something else. I mean this is are second spell and when the first month went really well, I mean it was great. The second month she could not make time due to reasons being understandable and I have not complained once and then she has the right to say the vibes gone when its her own fault. So I went to see her and I told her the story where we are and I told her if she wants to break up, ill hapilly giv you a hug and wish you the best and she sat there saying I don't know what to do. I said we must make a decision and she said she still wants to be with me. Now I'm 21 and she 19. So we sort things out and then she we say we are going to see each other next week, and then the day before cums and she says we need to sort our relationship out, and I told her I go what do you fink are last chat was about, you know what you gota do. I told her if your not happy lets split up but she says no, she wants a break to clear her head. I have told her this time if we break up , I am not coming back. But boy isn't this girl messin wiv my head.

I am sure you had mor relationships then her so right she doesn't want anything serious because she wants to go exploring and you knew this. You should've left a long time ago instead of waiting and giving her the option for you stay.

The confusion lies with you and you allowed her to mess with your head. Sometimes we've to decide what to do instead of giving the other person the option for you to stay or go.

Let her go and have her fun while you move on.

What I don't understand is, if you don't want to be wiv someone you leave them and if you do want to be wiv them then you make it work. What all this lets have a break? Where on this break and I haven't contacted her once, I isn't going to contact her, I just want her to come and say its over and that way I don't hurt her. I'm a man about it, one woman goes, you find the another one. Yh I'm going to miss her but she has made it easier because there isn't going to be any headaches I'm going to miss.

Sometimes people don't have to say "I want out" or "leave me alone" when their actions are saying it. So when you see that the other don't want to be bother why not just leave them alone instead of waiting for them to tell you.

You told she wanted a break so maybe this was her way of getting out. So time to move on and get this girl out of your head.

I see thanks liz. Shall I tell you why I don't want to ne the one tha ends it. This girl feels sorry for herself and has always said how her boy friends have ended it wiv her. I rather her break up than me, that way she isn't hurt and I can move on wiv my own life. What I will say is liz, what is wrong wiv women these days? The confusion, every man I know says it, that women mess wiv their heads.

I can't give you an answer to what is wrong with women because I am only one woman. I've been cheated on, lied to, and hurt by some of my boyfriends in the past but once I moved on I let go of that hurt and pain in order to give the next guy a fair shot. Maybe she don't know to do that.

From every relationship you learn something from it and in the process you learn something about yourself. What you will and won't deal with so if anything you learned something by being with her and you take what you learned and let go and use it as a tool in your next relationship.

No need to keep questioning her actions.

Yep I know where your coming from. What has to be said is relationships are stressfull and hard work. Like they say you need 2 to tango, lol. So if ones doing the work and the other ones laying on their backside it isn't guna work. Its time like this I feel like just messin around wiv girls and have one night stands.

Your chat speak is messing with my head, and its very clear you don't have the guts to do what you want her to do.

End this confusion by leaving each other alone. Everything else is a silly excuse for NOT doing what's needed for you both.

She clearly doesn't know what she wants and there's nothing you can do to fix her... but why would you go with her if you don't love her? I hope you at least like her otherwise you are both wasting time.

Yep I do like her, I just don't love her yet. All I will say is she is a great girl to be around when she's herself and her heads screwed on but when she gets into this confused phase, she is not worth it.

Leave her alone then!

Sounds like she just doesn't know what she wants. She could be waiting for you to break it off. Your both confused but someone has to take the intiative, otherwise you'll be running around in circles.