I have been going out with my boyfriend for over 7 months now. At first it was awesome! We use to do everything together, and we use to hang around with each others mates and just have a laugh. We use to sleep out and just go for long walks with each other. At that time I had never been so happy in my life!
But lately it just feels too different. He has a new hobbie and he won't shut up about it! That's all he wants to talk about and we always argue now. When I'm with him and he tells me he loves me, I want to say I love you back, but I just can't because it doesn't feel the same.
I want to love him how I use to because I want to be that happy again, but I just don't know what to do. I've tried enjoying his hobbies which I hate just to keep him happy. I givehim his space and don't constantly nag at him, but nothing is working. I just want to love him like before.

Unfortunately love is very elusive.

You can't say how it came about, all you know is it's great and you don't question it.

Then it's gone and it's near impossible to get back and all you can do is analyze the ether.

If you truly love him, I believe you would love every part of him, including the annoying slightly awful parts you can't stand...

I want to say I love you back, but I just can't because it doesn't feel the same.
That is your gut instinct telling you it isn't working out.

I want to love him how I use to
You can not turn back time, Your relationship has evolved into what it is and no wishing, hoping or trying to change it back is going to work.

Because I want to be that happy again,
It is not good to look to somebody to make you happy, You need to find happiness on your own and share happiness with somebody you love. Your not being happy with him is very likely something letting you know that your relationship is not working.
I have noticed that you can take two people and you like the one but don't like the other you notice things you do not like about the one and those things irritate you but the one you like can have the same annoying habits and they do not bother you like they bother you when the one that you do not like does them.

That depends,why you don't like his hobbie?you have to tell him how you feel when he talks about his hobbie and maybe do not have enough time for you.if he loves you,he'll try to stop it or spending less time on it to make you happy.
You seems to be a loving one but whatever you feel like telling him,you have to let him know.their must be understanding between you two.try to tell him the importance he has in your life.make him more closer to you so that you become more important than his hobby or else,you'll have to co orperate with him and accept it.

I hope that your problem will be solved soon..
Goodluck
Take care

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Originally Posted by Aliena

that depends,why you don;t like his hobbie?

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I do like one of his hobbies. He goes climbing quite a lot, almost everyday of the week. And he goes Kayaking every Saturday and maybe Sunday.
I will sometimes go climbing with him because I enjoy it and I find it fun to do because it's also spending time with him. I just find it annoying about the fact that he constantly goes on about it and will not shut up no matter how much I tell him to. He will bring climbing or kayaking up in every single conversation we have and everything always has to evolve around climbing or kayaking and it drives me insane to the point that I have to scream in his face to get him to shut up.

Try to be more romantic,talking about love,about your future.when you are with him,try to give him more affection,kissing him unexpectedly,cracking jokes,smiling,teasing him.make him forget about his worries and busy having fun with you.when he talks about his hobbies,let him talk,don't tell him anything and after that,you change the topic or while he was talking,just give him a tight hug or a sudden kiss.

I hope that this will advice will be useful.
All the best!