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  • Feb 19, 2009, 01:30 PM
    elena3117
    Big trouble
    I'm complicated. Recently I had some health problems and had to do 2 surgeries.. I went in one of the best hospitals. My doctor was very young and treated me really nice.. Everything was fine till the last time I went to do some tests to ensure that everything was normal. During the examination he was OK with me, I was somehow "cold".. When I left he text me that I wasn't good with him... I always liked him but it was out of my mind that someday he and I would be couple.. The last few days we talk every day and met only once.. (he kissed him and of course I kissed him back) He is older than me and I had problem with that but with the help of my friend I overcame it (15 years is big deal!)... Today I suggest to go for a coffee and he told me that he promised his little girl to go in a party.. I felt being hit by thunder.. And that the question, should I keep dating him or not?? I can stand the age but child?? I am only 20.. though I like him very much, I don't know what to do... HEELP
  • Feb 19, 2009, 01:32 PM
    kctiger

    Wait.. wait... are you saying that you and the doctor had some kind of connection? I need some clarity here. Please...

    The doctor has a child, apparently... is this doctor married? What freaking hospital did you go to? This sounds like some EXTREMELY unprofessional behavior.
  • Feb 19, 2009, 01:33 PM
    Romefalls19

    Yea, a lot is unclear in this. But if the child scares you, then back away and break it off. It's a tough situation for people to adapt too, if you can't handle it, then don't get involved.
  • Feb 19, 2009, 01:35 PM
    elena3117

    He is divorced...
    Yes I have some kind of connection... is this bad? Apart from doctor he is a man too.
  • Feb 19, 2009, 01:36 PM
    kctiger

    I guess I am just really interested in how this came about. What kind of a doctor is he? (If you don't mind me asking)
  • Feb 19, 2009, 01:42 PM
    elena3117

    Gynaecologist
  • Feb 19, 2009, 01:43 PM
    elena3117
    I haven't met his daughter nor I intent to.. all I want is to have some moments with him..
  • Feb 19, 2009, 01:44 PM
    kctiger

    I was afraid you were going to say that...

    As a doctor, lawyer, accountant.. any other professional field, the relationship you have with your patient/client puts YOU in a vulnerable position. I have no idea what his intent was, but I am reading off what your question is, and the descriptions you have. As his patient, especially with his field of knowledge, you are very vulnerable to what he does. He took advantage of your age, and from the looks of your pic, your beauty. This is my opinion, but I would get a new doctor if I were you... he is a 35 year old professional doctor, and you are 20... to me, that is crossing the line, especially as a doctor.
  • Feb 19, 2009, 01:48 PM
    Romefalls19

    Saw. This. Coming.

    Everyone else is right, break off this fling and you will be far better off. Also, get another doctor!
  • Feb 19, 2009, 01:48 PM
    elena3117

    Thanks a lot.. I know it's hard but I had to "listen" it from someone else.. Thank you
  • Feb 19, 2009, 01:50 PM
    kctiger
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by elena3117 View Post
    Thanks a lot.. i know it's hard but i had to "listen" it from someone else.. Thank you

    You need to be more careful of this crap! Guys, especially in power positions such as he has, can VERY easily take advantage of beautiful women. DO NOT let that kind of stuff happen to you. He ought to have his a$$ brought up on some kind of ethical violation... there is NO excuse for that stuff. There is a time and place for things like that.

    And no, I am not mad at you, I am just irritated at the situation.
  • Feb 19, 2009, 02:55 PM
    slapshot_oi
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by elena3117 View Post
    gynaecologist

    Whoa!

    I guess he already knows what he's dealing with!

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