Ask Me Help Desk - Break up for no reasons

Hi,
This is maunit, male, 26yrs (dob-14th July 1983).
Am a looser in love, very well and with full honesty I give my love and heart . At the start I become successful in getting the same back but later I loose as she breaks up may be after a year or more.
This is the second time happening to me since my partner feels that she doesn't deserve me. I can get much better girl etc. I have tried convincing her for several times but failed. She even says that she loves me truly and can't ever love anyone else but she can't keep me happy.but from the start she is suffering from this infi complexity.
I just want to know whether she will come back to my life or it will be another sad ending.
Am shattered and broken :(.
Please help.

I'm sorry to say, this is the age old break-up story. The old... "It's not you, it's ME"... "I don't deserve you." What she is trying to do is spare your feelings, so she doesn't have to deal with the real reasons.

By "infi complexity" that you've mentioned, I assume you mean "infidelity complex?" There is no such syndrome! That is another excuse to duck out of a relationship she doesn't want to be in. She didn't have the moral standards to stand up to you, and tell you the real reasons. People that do this make all sorts of excuses to run without dealing with the problem at hand.

You need to focus on yourself, and not invest so much in every relationship you get into. Be respectful, be honest, be a good boyfriend. BUT, do not focus your life around another person! Have your own interests. Show the girl that you won't die without her! No girl wants a guy that is at her beckon call 24/7! You have to leave a little mystery, and show her that you have a life outside of her.

Good luck!

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Originally Posted by maunit

Hi,
this is maunit, male, 26yrs (dob-14th july 1983).
Am a looser in love, very well and with full honesty i give my love and heart . at the start i become successful in getting the same back but later i loose as she breaks up may be after a year or more.
this is the second time happening to me since my partner feels that she doesn't deserve me. I can get much better girl etc. I have tried convincing her for several times but failed. She even says that she loves me truly and can't ever love anyone else but she can't keep me happy.but from the start she is suffering from this infi complexity.
I just want to know whether she will come back to my life or it will be another sad ending.
am shattered and broken :(.
Please help.

Why do you call yourself a LOSER? That mentality is all wrong man! There are ALWAYS reason for a break up, they just usually aren't apparent, nor discussed when one person breaks up with the other. The hiding of feelings, as it is.

So, back to my point... why do you think you are a loser?

Also, unless I am doing my math wrong, you are still 25. Every little bit helps man!

Getting true love back needs luck... friend... so I think myself a looser...

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Originally Posted by maunit

getting true love back needs luck....friend.... so i think myself a looser....

The only people that lose at life are the people who call themselves a loser. You are not a loser for this relationship ending... if that was the case, the entire world would be full of losers... I have gone through the same thing, and hardly think of myself as a loser. I actually consider myself lucky to have experienced what love is, and the experience has truly made me a better person. You will move on, as I, to bigger and better things. DON'T EVER CALL YOURSELF A LOSER!!