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  • Feb 18, 2009, 01:47 PM
    bunnybear083
    i don't know if he likes me
    OK I'm in eighth grade an I really like this guy... sense the 6th grade actually... :eek: and just recently well after I started a few convorsations online he acts like he likes me... ( he used to /NEVER answer my texts ) and now he does... hell say actually things online chatting other than lol, yep, OK, cool, hell actually have a really conversation... he moved his seat in history class and he has a clear veiw of me and I can se him starring every now and then.. but I'm not just going to say "do you like me?" did that before and he hated me for like ever.. I don't want to seem desperate but I want him to ask me out sooooo bad! And I don't now if he likes me... will someone please help? Please?


    oh and out of blue... like totlly random I was talking to my friend in the hallway and he just TOTALLY randomly started talking to us... well me.. and gave me this incredibla look I can't even explain...

    and please for the answers no more:
    oh just talk to him about your feelings hell understand
    or
    he diffinitally likes you! ( explain why )
  • Feb 19, 2009, 04:51 PM
    Rasmé

    you need to somehow steer a conversation around to liking people, make sure you flirt a bit and see how he reacts.
    I've found that saying things online rather than face to face helps, because people don't feel put on the spot as much, so they're more likely to say things that they wouldn't dare say to your face.
    I'd say be gradually more and more forward and flirty with him (in a fun, playful way - nothing heavy or desperate) - if he responds in a positive way - flirting back or giving hints or whatever then carry on with it and you'll be able to bring the conversation around to the subject of dating etc and hint for a date/that you like him etc
    at the end of the day, it's best to be too forward and get your answer (even if its not the one you want) than to be too shy and sit there wondering and second guessing forever.
    being turned down sucks and it really hurts for a bit, but you'll get over it and be able to move on and learn from it. Otherwise you could end up wasting your time on something that's never going to happen just because you're too afraid of getting a straight answer.
    and who knows - eventually there'll come a time where you actually get what you want. And that one 'yes' makes up for a thousand 'no's' =]

    hope some of this helped =P
    good luck =] xxx
  • Feb 19, 2009, 05:39 PM
    HighandDryinnNy

    If you have tried talking to him, then my advice is: ignore him. See, he's used to all the attention you give him, but once you take that attention away, that is going to catch HIS attention. He's going to wonder why you've stopped texting him, staring at him, mooning over him. He will try harder to talk to you to figure out what it was that made you lose interest. And I mean IGNORE him for as long as it takes. Talk to other people, make yourself known, tell funny jokes or do something that is going to positively spotlight you with your peers. Make HIM notice YOU. You might find that its not him that you want... some people on here will disagree with this post, but I firmly believe that guys love the chase. If you are all over him, he's not going to want you.
    P.S. please please do not do anything you are uncomfortable with EVER to please/entice a guy. Guys come and go, but you are stuck with you forever.
  • Feb 19, 2009, 08:31 PM
    neverme

    He really likes you!

    Just talk to him.


    No only joking.

    It sounds like he's scared that he will get slagged by the other guys for liking you, as is typical at your age.

    So my advice is to try to get your friends and his friends together and do something e.g. cinema etc

    Then it will give him ample opportunity to ask you out if that's what he wants to do.
  • Feb 21, 2009, 04:31 PM
    gabby09

    U know when you look to a guy and you don't look away when if ever that happens to you you keep the contact the longest and go up to him strike up a conversation and then after a while if you feel that he's more comfortable with you then ask him out perhaps to a cinema to the park and see how it goes, and bi the way good luck!
  • Feb 21, 2009, 10:18 PM
    neverme

    Sorry gabby? In the English speaking world we use things called commas and full stops to help express ourselves.

    Comma - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Full_stop

    Maybe these links will be of help.

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