Its almost been three months since my girl friend broke up with me. During that time I've kept my distance and when I see her I acknowledge her and say hi. A couple of weeks ago I stopped by my friends place to hangout and she was there, I left right away and she came out and tracked me down to talk. During the talk we got a lot out of the way and had things figured out. During this talk she said that she still wanted to hangout and talk. Even said go to a movie or go out to eat( she even made it sound like if think happen we might get back together) since then I've been hanging out with other girls and getting out in the game again. My question is, does she really want to hangout?

Did she suggest going to a movie or out to eat? Or did you suggest those things? During the talk did you get the issues that resulted in the breakup resolved?

She probably does, but as friends. NOTHING MORE, can you handle that?

If I was dating a guy and was the dumper... the only reason why I would contact him again is because I had feelings for him. I'm not saying that this is the reason she contacted you. I'm just telling you how I would be feeling.

If you want to see what she really wants, you have to ask her and see. The only way to do things is by asking.

She's the one that brought up going to a movie or out to eat, I want to hangout with her as a friend, but if something does happen it happens, I'm not looking for a relationship with her or anyone just because she hurt me so bad

Well, then, you can hang out and if she brings something up that indicates she wants to get back into the relationship you can just tell her "not at this time."

I really don't think you are ready for this... you still are insistent that she hurt you "so bad." Seeing her can be an extremely easy way to draw up those feelings. There is nothing wrong with being friends with an ex, IF you can handle it, and IF you are fine with it. I am not sure you can answer "yes" to both of those "ifs."

My advice: be cautious, and don't meet up with her. There will be a time for that, and I don't think that time is NOW.

Yeah, you should really think about this, because even though she was the one who brought it up, it doesn't mean that there are feeling or a want to get back together involved. If there was she would prob flat out tell you.

And seeing as you are not ready for a relationship with her or anyone else... because she hurt you so bad... why hangout?

I agree with KC: it doesn't seem as if you are ready for that right now... but you might be at a later date

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Originally Posted by boatbuilder

shes the one that brought up going to a movie or out to eat, i want to hangout with her as a friend, but if something does happen it happens, im not looking for a relationship with her or anyone just because she hurt me so bad

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Just curious, why would you hang out with some one who has hurt you so bad? That doesn't sound like fun, nor does it sound healthy, or the truth! Do I smell FALSE HOPE?

Be careful. I am sure she is attracted to you but if you get to close she might hurt you again. I tell you this from experience, I was the one that broke things off with my ex and then wanted to hang out again but when we got back together I realized why we had broken up in the first place and broke up again. Therefore hurting him again. In three months she's been with other dudes. I don't think you shouldn't even hang out. You deserve better and she seems unsure of what she really wants from you. Don't be her toy. Let her be until she really comes crying for you.. Trust me.

False hope is held high, no way could u handle the friends zone right now. It will hurt you a lot more than you will be back on here saying you should have listened to us