I will be 13 years old next week, and I've decided that I never want to get married or have kids. Can I get a hysterectomy? Or just have my ovaries removed? How much would this cost? I never told my parents about this.

I think that's a little extream don't you?
I always said I never wanted kids when I was your age, now I'm 17 and I'd consider it sometime in the future.
I think it such a big decision your making at such a young age.
I'd forget about it until your a lot older, and if you feel the same way and feel the need to, then consider it.

No ,this would be elective surgery and no doctor in his right mind would do this.

There are other less invasive ways of insuring that you are childless.

Having been 13 once I can tell you that everything seems like it's big drama and has to be dealt with now - that is absolutely not the case. From 13 on you never know where you will end up, what new experiences you will be involved in or what new interesting direction your life may take.

There's nothing wrong with not wanting to have children, but there is no need for surgery at this point to mnake a point of it. When you begin to have sex (if you wish) talk to your parents and perhaps an oral contraceptive may be all you need.

Well, I'm never going to have sex. I already said I never want to get married. And I am very strong against sex before marriage.

So you really have nothing to worry about : no sex = no children.

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Originally Posted by artlady

No ,this would be elective surgery and no doctor in his right mind would do this.

There are other less invasive ways of insuring that you are childless.

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Wouldn't this be the same as spaying? My cat was just spayed last month.

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Originally Posted by NeedKarma

So you really have nothing to worry about : no sex = no children.

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But I'll still have periods every month. I haven't had any yet, and don't really want to.

Well at 12 years old there really isn't anything you can do without your parents' consent. Why not talk to them about this? I'm sure they would want to know what is going on in your mind. Perhaps your mom can educate you on periods and how she lives with them.

There is at least one female contraceptive that limits the number of periods a women has in a year. Forget the name.

There are birth control options that will allow you to have few or no periods.

13 is an awful young age to make a life altering decision when you aren't even old enough to have your ears pierced without your parents permission.

I was 35 when I had my tubal ligation and my OB tried like crazy to talk me out of it. The reason? People change and decide they want something opposite of what they have said they want all their lives.

Mother Nature's Gift can be a drag sometimes, but it isn't all that horrible.

When a mother gives birth to a child, there is a bond that will never beecome broken.(unless the is not a very good mother) wouldn't you like to have a bond with something take you helped create? Think about it, wouldn't you like to have something that is so cute and help it walk and teach it to talk. Just think about the hysterctomy for a few months and then your solution will come to you.

You might very well be right... you might never want kids. Or you might.

The things I was certain of and wanted at 13 were not always the same things I wanted at 18 or 24... often the words "never" or "forever", when you are younger, really end up meaning "for now"...

And understand I'm not trying at all to minimize or marginalize your feelings and how certain you feel. I believe you mean all that you say. I'm not certain that all you say will hold true in ten years.

You might not want to deal with menstruation. OK. Understandable.

Try to accept that no physician will do this. As mentioned, it is elective surgery, and age inappropriate.

You would not be able to have a hysterectomy by choice at your age. Stopping the hormones so early would cause you more problems then it would be worth to avoid periods. As was said, there are types of birth control that would allow you to have very few periods... might be an option down the road to consider. That way you won't have done anything permanent just yet. For many girls/women periods are not a big issue and when it is, often remedies can be found to help.

Odds are tremendous that you will change your mind at some point in time. But even if you didn't, you could make that decision after you have finished growing.

A complete hysterectomy is a major, life altering decision that would only be used for a true medical need. One of the biggest changes would be a loss of bone... now, and for the next number of years, is the time you want to be doing all that you can to build it up so that your bones will serve you well when you are older and naturally start to lose density.

Consider speaking to your parents, or another trusted adult, about your thoughts on this. It sounds as though there is some underlying reason as to why you are thinking this is the best approach for you at this time. Talking to someone about any concerns or fears you might have might be helpful.