Hi Everyone

I would like to discuss the above topic for the only reason that I am living it now. I do not know how often you guys have experienced mutual attraction upon first meeting a person you have never seen before, but those of you who have know what I am talking about know how crazy it can be. I wonder if you could please share your thoughts.

Sometimes we're attracted to someone, but the person barely notices us. Other times, someone is attracted to as, but we have no interest in them. Every not so often though, two people are mutually and equally attracted to each other. Amazing, isn't it?

Don't get me wrong - I do not believe in such a thing called "love" at first sight, but I can't find a reasonable explanation.

I am clueless as to how to proceed.. .

Mutual attraction, is not the same as "love at first sight". Mutual attration is grounded in lust and it either builds into a relationship or you find that after the attraction wanes, there isn't anything solid between the two people to equal a relationship.

If you find yourself attracted to someone, who is equally attracted to you, enjoy it. You will see where it leads, but make sure the attraction has the stable foundation if you want it to lead to anything beyond a sexual relationship.

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Originally Posted by Justwantfair

Mutual attraction, is not the same as "love at first sight". Mutual attration is grounded in lust and it either builds into a relationship or you find that after the attraction wanes, there isn't anything solid between the two people to equal a relationship.

If you find yourself attracted to someone, who is equally attracted to you, enjoy it. You will see where it leads, but make sure the attraction has the stable foundation if you want it to lead to anything beyond a sexual relationship.

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Thank you. In fact, I am not looking for anything less than a real relationship.

How to work through the awkwardness mutual attraction brings and build something good?

Then my best suggestion is to postpone any sexual relationship.

You have a mutual attraction, that is a great thing. Just focus on what else you have in common before you progress further in the relationship. Attraction is important in a real relationship, but so is compatibility.

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Originally Posted by Justwantfair

Then my best suggestion is to postpone any sexual relationship.

You have a mutual attraction, that is a great thing. Just focus on what else you have in common before you progress further in the relationship. Attraction is important in a real relationship, but so is compatibility.

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Thanks again. I should add the reason I am clueless as to how to proceed is that I do not want to "screw up."

Just take things slow, you can't screw up what is meant to be. Be yourself and don't change who you are for ANYONE.

Don't jump in headfirst, you sound like you are aware of yourself so just take your time. It will work out the way it is supposed to, then you will know if it was "love at first sight" or mutual attraction.

You can't screw up if your honest with yourself and him and only do what you feel comfortable with.