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  • Feb 16, 2009, 04:56 PM
    mintah50
    Depression +Valentine Day + ANNIVERSARY= Break/up
    Hey, I don't know where to start. I going through a big depression ,And my boyfriend is like a friend who tries to be there for me all the time. And my biggest issue in my life and he said he loved me, now I feel like I really reach a deep depression and on our 2 month being together ANNIVERSARY / valentines . We were suppose to hang out but instead ,He broke up with me and said I can't handle this depression your going through and I feel like you like me more than I like you. But he said he love me first , I never told him to say that just because I was going through stuff in my life. But I told him just because I say I love you it doesn't mean I in love with you. But he was speechless. Now to top this off he broke up with me while I'm going through the biggest depression in my life. I feel like it more to it that he doesn't want to tell me . I don't know. I need advice. These are my three questions: 1. was he wrong for doing this? 2. What do I do if I run into him in school? 3. What do I say to him when we first see each other again?
  • Feb 16, 2009, 05:14 PM
    talaniman
    1. Was he wrong for doing this?
    For whatever reason he has changed his mind. It may be not to your liking, but would you rather have him stay out of pity?
    2. What do I do if I run into him in school?
    Be polite but keep your distance.
    3. What do I say to him when we first see each other again?
    Nothing, be busy and unavailable, but not rude.

    Accept he has changed his mind and leave him alone. That's your best bet. You have enough issues to deal with without chasing after some one who doesn't want a relationship with you.

    Have you seen a doctor for the depression?
  • Feb 16, 2009, 05:28 PM
    mintah50
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    1. was he wrong for doing this?
    For whatever reason he has changed his mind. It may be not to your liking, but would you rather have him stay out of pity?
    2. What do i do if i run into him in school?
    Be polite but keep your distance.
    3. What do i say to him when we first see each other again?
    Nothing, be busy and unavailable, but not rude.

    Accept he has changed his mind and leave him alone. Thats your best bet. You have enough issues to deal with without chasing after some one who doesn't want a relationship with you.

    Have you seen a doctor for the depression??

    Thank you so much this really help so does the quote. Wow I'm usually the one giving advice on realationships. But I never looked at it like this it really helps. I just don't want to feel insercue because he was with me for pity.
  • Feb 16, 2009, 06:02 PM
    neverme

    Then don't feel insecure. He's missing out. You will get over this depression and be all the better for your experiences.

    So stop thinking about what he may or may not think and get on with life. He will be.

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