Why won't my ex give me closure?
Hey everyone I'm new here but I been reading the post for a while and it been so good that I decide to join.
So here goes, I'll try to keep it short as possible...
Me and my ex was in a long distance relationship which lasted about 2 years, it was great and we had a great relationship. But towards the end of the relationship he told me that " 'we should back off' because he wanted to focus on his career. I didnt think much of it, and I didnt want to hold him back in anything so I said yes. After that we didn't speak for a while. So I thought I will give him a call just to see how he is....but no answer. (Just for the record i didnt call 100 times probably 10 in that time period lol) So after that I didnt call him for about another 3months, but by this time his number was no longer in service so that was it and he never once try to contact me. This was really painful you, would think that if you are in a relationship with someone for 2 years they would consider your feelings more.
So in time I accepted the fact that he didn't want to be contacted by me and that he didnt want me around. (I know this because he was still in contact with one of my friends but not with me) When he did this I was mad at him for months because I felt he could have been more clear with me, he wanted to break up but he never said that, he just ignored me and gave me no explaination.
So with that in mind I moved on...I was finally getting him out of my system...and BAM! who calls out of the blue? Yes him!!!
He just called randomly out of the blue just to 'see how I'm doing', He kept calling everytime I seem to get over him. (why is that always the case? It's like they can smell when you are getting over them)
So with that in mind, I told him that its best not to contact me because he is confusing me. He didnt for a while and then he started again.
Then last week finally I told him I want closure, I need him to tell me that "he doesn't need me in his life and that he don't love me anymore and all this craziness will be over". It a reasonable request right?
But today a week later I hear nothing from him, no closure, no answer. I do not want to get back together with him, but I feel like mentally I need to hear him make up his mind. I'm trying to close the book on this awkward relationship but I feel like he wants to keep me as a ' just in case' or keep me hanging on. Which from my standpoint is inpossible.
So what should I do? Since he won't respond, what can I do to get him out of my system? And why is he doing this to me?
Do you think I handled that situation correctly?
(also he said that he wanted to focus on he carer but to this day had made no progress, so what he told me was a lie) :eek: