I love my wife very much, she is good looking, she loves me very much & she is religious but she sleeps we soon she will never spend time to watch TV with me, she always like sleeping, I have to go first to have sex with her, she will never say no to me even if she is in deep sleep. But why should I go first to have sex. I told her many times that I need you to start first, she will never never do this. We both do not have any friends, I will spend more time at home we are financially very good. My wife character is very good she will never speaks to any males, she is so shy that she has never spoked to me any thing about sex topic till now. We got married before 17 years. I am very sexy, I love sex very much with my wife but she sleeps always. Now please advise me how to tune my wife OR how to reduce my sex power. Were as I feel I am normal. Only with this issue we often get fight. About me I am very honest I will never enjoy out side like other husbands. Please advise.

Give a guy a good thing, and he still isn't happy. Find some good clean fun to do, and let your wife sleep. Why can't you accept her for what she is, and stop being resentful for what she is not.

Has she been to a doctor? If she constantly wants to sleep, this could be a sign of several different problems. Depression for one. Not saying that there is a problem, but you should encourage her to visit a doctor for a check up to see why she wants to sleep all the time. Then if there is nothing wrong, you both might want to speak to a councilor or minister about the sex problems.

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has she been to a doctor? If she constantly wants to sleep, this could be a sign of several different problems. Depression for one. Not saying that there is a problem, but you should encourage her to visit a doctor for a check up to see why she wants to sleep all the time. Then if there is nothing wrong, you both might want to speak to a councilor or minister about the sex problems.

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She is healthy & Normal, she feels sleepy after 9P.M and gets up at 6A.M, I think this is normal duration. I spoked to her many times but she says I don't love her, this is not true, she says this to escape from me. She always wants me to start first. She will never touch's me unless I starts first. Since from 12 years she never started first. Before 12 years she was fine. I think she do not have sex feelings now. But till now she did not refused me going to her. This is not fare, I to have some likes. What to do please help.

Perhaps she is shy. Some women like to be wooed and swept off their feet. Some like it all the time, and feel that it's the mans' job to initiate sex. Ask her. What is her reasoning for not initiating.