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  • Feb 13, 2009, 03:29 PM
    chrissymarie
    My ex boyfriends best friend just made moves on me.
    My ex/ current boyfriend luis and I have been having a rocky time. We've broken up and been arguing a lot driving each other crazy his friend and my friends both know what's going on between us and have witnessed a lot of it.

    Today my luis came to my job with flowers and candy and a teddy bear and lunch from my favorite mexican food place. He brought right to my desk in front of all my coworkers and gave me a big hug and kiss. I must have been so red! Anyway we ate together and had a really nice lunch. We didn't fight. On the way walking him out of the building I noticed his "best" friend Ricky in the lobby with flowers, candy and a card. When we spotted him my ex gave him a funny look and was like... "whats up man... what are you doing here?" he told my ex he was here for me, and then he handed me his gift and gave me a hug and told me to call him when I get off work and walked off. Luis just stood there looking oh so mad and red. He questioned me about the relationship me and Ricky have which seriously is none! I mean I've helped him a couple times with his calculus homework but that's it. He's never mentioned liking me at all. Luis had to run back to work so we didn't get to talk much about it.

    I've decided I'm not going to make any moves on this at all. I don't feel like his advances were genuine. I don't like the fact he's making his mves right now knowing Luis and I are on shaky ground. I feel like he's preying on me because I'm weak. I told my best friend this and she thinks I'm crazy! She said what he did was sweet and boll and that I should go on a date with him. (there was an invite to dinner tomorrow night (valentines day) in the card he gave me)

    Should I go and see what this is all about or stay away from him?
  • Feb 13, 2009, 03:40 PM
    liz28

    I wouldn't! This would only cause more unneeded drama. I'am sure the friendship between him and your ex is over but I must admit what he did was bold unless him and your ex got together to pull your strings. Any woo, you already stated you didn't believe what he did was geniue so why proceed unless you just want to keep the pot brewing, no harm intended.

    Are you and your ex working on getting back together?
  • Feb 13, 2009, 03:51 PM
    artlady

    Did it ever occur to you it's a set -up?
    If you are on shaky ground,it will only get a whole lot shakier if you start seeing someone else.
    Close one door before you open another,anything else is playing with fire.
  • Feb 13, 2009, 03:57 PM
    chrissymarie
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by liz28 View Post
    Are you and your ex working on getting back together?

    Yes we are. Were working on communicating better, but we know we can't get back together until he's really ended thing with his baby's mother because she still feels for some reason they will get back together.
  • Feb 13, 2009, 03:58 PM
    chrissymarie
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by artlady View Post
    Did it ever occur to you its a set -up?
    If you are on shaky ground,it will only get a whole lot shakier if you start seeing someone else.
    Close one door before you open another,anything else is playing with fire.

    Set up? What kind of set up? What's the purpose of setting me up like this if it is?
  • Feb 13, 2009, 04:55 PM
    artlady
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chrissymarie View Post
    Set up? what kind of set up? whats the purpose of setting me up like this if it is?

    Just to see what you would do ,if you took the bait so to speak.. to test your fidelity to him.

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