My good friend of 10 years recently had a baby, but I was not invited to her shower. I am hurt by this because when she told me she was pregnant she told me she would invite me to her shower. Well, that didn't happen and she never told me why I wasn't invited to her shower. She has had the baby and told me she would love for me to come visit the baby. I really don't know what to do because I am very hurt that I was not invited to her showere and I feel that she wants me to come see the baby so I will bring her a gift.

You are right to feel that way. I'd go visit her new baby but just bring a token gift. And while I was there visiting see if she brings up the fact you were not invited. If she does not, then since this is obviously bothering you, come right out and tell her that you were hurt by her thoughtlessness and crass behavior.

Umm, the prospective mother does NOT throw a shower for herself. This is generally done by the mother, siblings or good friends. So it may not have been your friend who left you off the guest list. Or your invitation may have been lost in the mail.

So, I agree that you should do what twinkie suggested. She may bring up that she was disappointed that you didn't make the shower and you can take it from there. Or you can say something like; "I'm so glad you invited me to see the baby, I was disappointed when I learned that your shower had been held because I thought you were going to have me invited." And then see what she says.

Is there a chance that the person who threw the shower could have overlooked you?

I would visit mom and baby sans gift, maybe bring a casserole or something small. If you feel the need, maybe mention the shower in passing. If she avoids the subject and looks uncomfortable then she's probably aware that you weren't invited. If not, she is either incredibly crass and selfish or she had no idea that there was an oversight where you are concerned.

I would be hurt. Sometimes stuff like this is better left as water under the bridge.

So many people bring gifts for baby but my sister was always adamant to bring the new Mom something.A nice nightgown or a personal new mom diary,something for Mom alone to help her to feel beautiful again.A spa treatment or a gift certificate to get her nails done.

And then something simple for the baby... a teddy bear or something.

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Originally Posted by artlady

So many people bring gifts for baby but my sister was always adamant to bring the new Mom something.A nice nightgown or a personal new mom diary,something for Mom alone to help her to feel beautiful again.A spa treatment or a gift certificate to get her nails done.

And then something simple for the baby...a teddy bear or something.

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Did you actually read the thread?

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Originally Posted by GirlWSlingshot

Did you actually read the thread?

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Yes, and it was answered by others.I was adding to the question.