Ask Me Help Desk - The addiction I was never meant to have

The addiction, I face is hard for me to say but masterbaiting. I was so good and made it almost 2 years and ti started up again. It now ahs becaome this repititve stupidty. I want to , I But I know I don't want to. And the sin, and the horrible pain and ye I keep doing it. And I think it is a problem. Because I just don't seem to be able to stop. On a good gp these days I might last a month or so, but normally really really trying I don't get past afew days. Some times when it is really bad... I barly get past a few hours. I've been doing it since I was like 6 and I didn't even know what it was then. And now I am 22 and I am tryign to fihgt something, with prayer and I think the hardest thing is I feel alone. I don't think I know any other female who faces this... It always seems like a mans addiction. Thank God and not in a using Gods name in vain sort of way I finally got past the porn. One pastor out of 20 in 15 yearsever aacknoweldged that females can go through these kinds of things... why is it always presumeed,. women have eating disorders and men play with themselves too much and look at porn. It's hard and it's scary I feel like I am running out of time beforeteh second coming. I fear Jesus will leavee me behind. Ihave this problem of just deal with it later. And it sucks. And in case you think it is just s lust issue... not always... sometimes I am thinking of something as trivial as icecream with gummy bears on it. So what is triggernig it? Yes satan but I mean I just don't get it. Please excuse my bad typing. Ty help?:(

Some people have a disorder and the only way to fix it is through medical help.
Go see a obgyn and tell the doc your problem.
He should be able to tell you what you need to do.
It might require you take medicine or even see a shrink.

But have no fears were there is a will there is away.

Good luck.

A sexual addiction can be a serious problem that ruins people's lives. But with that said, there is a possibility that you don't have an addiction. In your post, I hear many religious references. It leads me to wonder if you have pressured yourself into believing you are required to abstain completely from all sexual feelings (arousal) in order to be considered good or worthy in your religion. If so, this can artificially make sexual expression (looking at porn and masterbation) that much more irresistible, which would micmic an addiction without really being one.

I can assure you that addiction is not a case of being bad or sinning, that Satan is definatley not behind it and there is a real need to seek professional help for it, just as Educatedhorse wisely suggested.

Are you capable of arranging to visit with a counselor or therapist? Can your pastor make a refferal to someone for you? You don't have to reveal the nature of the problem - just say you have a personal dilemma that you would like to run by a therapist. There is no need to suffer as you are when there is help out there in the world waiting to support you getting to the bottom of this. There is no way of telling what is triggering it without indepth face-to-face sessions. But I can tell you it is possible to change it so you are again happy in life and comfortable with yourself.

Thanks for posting.

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Originally Posted by Amythest

The addiction, I face is hard for me to say but masterbaiting. I was so good and made it almost 2 years and ti started up again. It now ahs becaome this repititve stupidty. I want to , I But I know I don't want to. and the sin, and the horrible pain and ye I keep doing it. and I think it is a problem. Because I just don't seem to be able to stop. On a good gp these days I might last a month or so, but normally really really trying I don't get past afew days. Some times when it is really bad....I barly get past a few hours. I've been doing it since i was like 6 and I didn't even know what it was then. and now I am 22 and I am tryign to fihgt something, wiht prayer and I think the hardest thing is I feel alone. I don't think I know any ohter female who faces this... It always seems like a mans addiction. Thank God and not in a using Gods name in vain sort of way I finally got past the porn. One pastor out of 20 in 15 yearsever aacknoweldged that females can go through these kinds of things.....why is it always presumeed,...women have eating disorders and men play wiht themselves too much and look at porn. It's hard and it's scary I feel like I am running out of time beforeteh second coming. I fear Jesus will leavee me behind. Ihave this problem of just deal wiht it later. and it sucks. and in case you think it is just s lust issue....not always...sometimes iam thinking of something as trivial as icecream wiht gummy bears on it. so what is triggernig it? yes satan but i mean i just dont get it. please excuse my bad typing. ty help?:(

No offense.. But your getting a little too over dramatic..

A woman's vagina is more likely to get a 100% rush out of an orgasm then a man.

Not to mention the repeated amount of times u can come.

With a man its different.. u get hard and u get soft..

and once its soft.. it has to cool off for a bit..

what I'm saying is.. of course its common sense females get pressumed for these kind of things.. because of the rush it gives you.

and I can totally understand you about feeling alone. But do something constructive during your time alone..

like me I'm going to school and I skateboard.. and I'm not worried about chicks. And I cry myself to sleep from lonesome,

but I have faith cause now that I'm not looking that special girl she will come my way soon. And all this lonesome will be worthed..

and see.. when I had a girl I really cared.. I never jacked off because I was in love.. I had someone who cared for me. And I had no interest in it.

the only time people have addictions of any type is when there bored in life. And not occupied..

so try and occupie yourself

and yes it may be a sin to pleasure yourself. But it can easily be forgiven.. its not bad because your not hurting nobody.. your not damaging nothing.

I'm not saying go head do it. I'm just saying.. take it easy hun.

Hey thanks hypo. I got married sense this post and I have been doing good since then but thank you a lot for your answer. Hope you find someone.

Your quite welcome. And I'm glad everything is fine.
Hope all is well and stays well.

<3 take care

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Originally Posted by xHypoCondriacx

Your quite welcome. And im glad everything is fine.
Hope all is well and stays well.

<3 take care

I'm a mom now too...
Only took me like 3 years to respond.

Great to see you're doing better. I must say shame on the Catholic Church and other religions for saying that masturbation is a sin, and telling people that they will go to hell or go blind, etc. People should not have to feel shame and guilt for doing something that is as natural as breathing and eating. I hope that there are not too many other people still suffering needlessly because of the false belief that it is a sin. If masturbation caused blindness, there would be a lot more seeing-eye dogs around!

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Originally Posted by earl237

Great to see you're doing better. I must say shame on the Catholic Church and other religions for saying that masturbation is a sin, and telling people that they will go to hell or go blind, etc. People should not have to feel shame and guilt for doing something that is as natural as breathing and eating. I hope that there are not too many other people still suffering needlessly because of the false belief that it is a sin. If masturbation caused blindness, there would be a lot more seeing-eye dogs around!

You got that right:D

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Originally Posted by earl237

Great to see you're doing better. I must say shame on the Catholic Church and other religions for saying that masturbation is a sin, and telling people that they will go to hell or go blind, etc. People should not have to feel shame and guilt for doing something that is as natural as breathing and eating. I hope that there are not too many other people still suffering needlessly because of the false belief that it is a sin. If masturbation caused blindness, there would be a lot more seeing-eye dogs around!

I do wear glasses... something that did happen shortly after I had started lol