I really love my wife but need advise. We have been married for a few years now and I love her just as mutch now then before but I just can't take it anymore, her kids are always first for her. I have tried every way possible to make her understand that kids growup and leave and at the end parents are alone. They visit don't take me wrong but they are not the one that will cut your lawn of shovel your driveway every time it needs to be done. I'm at the point were I'm starting to think she doesn't deserve me. The kids are all adults now and they still all live at home. The dad no longer provids for any of them I am. What should I do?

The quick answer is "Love them". The status quo has been established over the last few years. And this is how it is now. It is probably AFTER the kids grow up and leave that she would understand what you are trying to say. For now focus on the things that you love doing together.

My advice is to appreciate the fact that you have a wife who puts her kids first. I would say that is a good quality. I know to many dead beat parents who don't give a crap. I am sure your wife loves you. Maybe talk to her about putting aside some one on one adult time just the two of you.