I have been a big part of his life. I was allowed to have him weekly over night since he was born I have a strong bond with him, I pay my ex $ 350.00 a month even though there is no court order, I recently filed to settle child support and visitation but I know she will drag this out as long as she can. I haven't seen my son in 3 weeks and it's killing me, Is there any way to speed things up he's 8 months old and Im missing so much thanks Chris

It really annoys me when mothers will not let the dads see their kids.
So many deadbeat dads that the mothers wish would have a relationship with their kids and refuse to. Then you get a guy that WANTS to see his kid and the mother refuses. You really do need to take this through court no matter how long it takes. I hope you have proof of what you have paid. They very likely can still go after back support though simply because it was not through the courts. Hope the best for you.