Okay, this is going to sound weird, but I can't think of any other way to say it -- so I'm just going to throw it out there.

My girlfriend sucks on my fingers a whole lot, and well... I took that as a sign that she wanted to give a BJ, or something of the like.

I asked her about it, but she said she didn't really want to because she was scared to do it, since she had never done it before... she didn't know if she would like it.

I can understand that, especially since I've never had a BJ or anything of the like... so I don't know if I would like it either.

But it just seems weird.


I always do things to her (as in rub her down there, lick her, finger her, etc) but she never does anything to me. Really, she doesn't ever touch me down there at all. That just seemed weird to me... please advise.

She is very young. She is most likely scared that she won't know what to do - male genitalia are a little intimidating to inexperienced girls. She will warm to it I think - but maybe not. In any event it will happen in time. It takes longer for a girl to be ready to do such things.

If you don't tell her what you want how will she know?

Start slow with her.
There are certain things you don't just jump into.
Read all you can about it.
Maybe consider flavored condoms and stuff like that.
Maybe she is worried about what it will taste like.
Make sure you are always clean.
Encourage her to read about it to. If you do it right she will want to do it.
You should GOOGLE it and find out all you can.

If she's never even touched you down there, she's definitely not going to want to jump right to the bj. When I first started doing stuff with guys I was extremely scared/nervous/shy. I didn't know what would feel good for them and was worried I would end up looking like an idiot. What you need to do is give her time to become comfortable with you and your body. Let her know what would feel good for you and give her some time to absorb it and decide if she's ready. Encourage her, but don't pressure her, because she'll end up either completely shutting you out or doing something she's not ready for and resenting you. So basically just give it time and make sure you're communicating. Good luck!