Ok me and my girlfriend have been going out 8 months tomorrow (woulda been) This Year is when everything started going crazy her friends have been depressed she's lost friends gained friends all that.We Started arguing more because of the stresses she took on such as School,bills,etc. Then Right when I got myself together to have a healthy argument she starts going we need a break/ So we are broke up but still fully committed to each other Like even on her myspace it still says In a relationship and she logs on everyday but a thing is she has a funeral tomorrow for her little sisters boyfriend he committed suicide I understand that something like that can be devastating.For a while now she's been experiencing anxiety she had an anxiety attack and that scared me.I just want to talk to her about our problems but she wants to wait very long periods she tells me she's not strong enough to handle them yet she says we have a big relationship but she puts our relationship last because of all her personal problems she doesn't like to tell me her feelings much but I love to express my feelings.She Said to me it feels like were switched around she was like I'm the guy you're the girl in the relationship and I was like whoa she figured that since she doesn't tell her emotions and since I Do that its like that she said lets take a break until she's strong enough to deal with everything so I was like iight so I'm just waiting for the time she'll contact me I don't know what to do about out anniversary tomorrow or valentine's day but I am willing to wait for her but if it gets out of hand like 4 5 6 months that won't be tolerated foreal I have so much patience and ima nice person and I couldn't see myself without her she tells me I am and still are the best guy in the world and no one has treated her better and she says I'm so good to her she says she needs time but like she said I can still hit her up but just not talk about relationship probs I don't have nothing that good to talk about if I can't talk to her how I want we both still say we love each other none of our friends know that we aren't dating also I don't know exactly what to do but I know I'm going to occupy myself and take care of myself.

If she is not 100% comfortable with herself... she can't be 1000% comfortable with you either. In order to love someone you have to love yourself. I think she needs time to figure herself out just like she said. All you can do is be there for her.

It seems like she's having a real hard time and it might be hard for her to express what she's feeling. As you said, she isn't very open with her emotions. Try letting her know that, if she ever wants to talk, that you're there for her. About valentine's day and your anniversary, I suggest that you give her sweet, small gifts that'll be a comfort to her. Ex: bouquet with a humourous card, notebook with a pretty pen. Something that matches her taste. Patience is a virtue and may lead to many rewards.

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Originally Posted by satfira

It seems like she's having a real hard time and it might be hard for her to express what she's feeling. As you said, she isn't very open with her emotions. Try letting her know that, if she ever wants to talk, that you're there for her. About valentine's day and your anniversary, i suggest that you give her sweet, small gifts that'll be a comfort to her. Ex: bouquet of flowers with a humourous card, notebook with a pretty pen. Something that matches her taste. Patience is a virtue and may lead to many rewards.

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Right Right So Patience ima have (I was going to do that anyway lol) and I'm sending her flowers and cards