Hi,
I met a girl on Yahoo chat. Now she's my girlfriend.
We're chating since long & we are honest to each other. We finally decided to marry. The problem is that she lives in USA I'm In Pakistan. She wants me to come to USA. Can you help by telling steps what is the procedure of marrying US National girl & how can I apply for US Visa? What Reason?

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Please also tell me is there any procedure that we marry on phone or something online & then I claim I'm going to USA to my wife?

Hope You'll Help Us
Thank You
Iffy Khan

Okay, you really want to marry someone who you have met online? Someone who you have never spent any personal time with.

How long have you known her? What are your ages? Is she telling the truth?

I am sorry for so many questions, but marrying someone you met online who lives in a different country than you is SUCH a gamble. You really do not know what you are getting.

I have a family member who met someone online, they "dated" for over a year. When he went to visit her, her husband walked in. So, do you really truly know this person?

Have you met her parents? What do her parents think about this? Your parents?

A lot to take into consideration.

Before you decide to marry... suggest agreeing to meet in person first. Online relationships are always perfect - because the person you are "in love with online" is not "that" person but the person YOU have formed in your mind.

You have many things to consider before marriage. Your situation... different countries etc only adds to the challenge. I'd think about these things long and hard before moving forward with this.

I agree with the others.

Slowwwwwwwww down.

Meet her FIRST. Have her take a trip to Pakistan or another country, or you visit her in the USA. Meet her first before considering marriage.

Another thing to remember is culture and religion. Will you both be tolerant to each other's culture and religion?

I agree with CF and Jon. Slow way down and meet in person. If you cannot arrange that, then how will you arrange a marriage?

Remember just meeting once will not show you who the "real" person is. You have to meet a number of times.

You People Really Talked True!
I Had Never Think Of These Points Before.
I Realized I'm Doing Too Much Hurry.
I'll Ask Her To Come Or I'll Try To Go There & Try To Consider My Further Relation In Light Of Your Advices.

THANK YOU SO MUCH!

You want to marry someone you don't know or have ever seen? Your kidding right?

Come on man, he want to come to America. Let's face it, she must not be much to agree to marry someone from the internet! That is just a little too loose for me!

WOW...
I agree with all the answers given...

Take it slow, what is the rush?!

Your jumping in to something that has detrimental consequences you walk before you run.remember thAt.

If you want to come to the US as the spouse of a US national, you have to apply fro a fiancés visa from the mAmerican Embassy in Pakistan. Theywill send you a packet of forms. Your resolve to mkarry at all will be severely tested by these forms and their requirements, but if you are persiostent you can do what is necessary. Marry on the telephone? No way! Go the right way about it or don't bother. If you really love her, have her come to pakistan to marry you, and then you can apply for a spouses visa. However, the US Government is not a sucker and you will have to prove the genuine nature of your love match before they will let you shake your pins on US soil.



M:)RGANITE

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Originally Posted by talaniman

You want to marry someone you don't know or have ever seen? Your kidding right?

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Blind persons often marry people they have not seen.



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Originally Posted by magprob

Come on man, he want to come to America. Let's face it, she must not be much to agree to marry someone from the internet! That is just a little too loose for me!

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I married someone from the internet eight years ago. It was a match made in heaven. Neither of us fits your "Must not be much" slur.

The internet is a tool that is used to effect introductions. After that, people grow to know each other and then make their choices.

M:)

No. No. NO!

I said it. I think you are more in love with the idea of marrying her, than her, period. Take a trip here and see what life for her is like, other than assuming what it is from your side of the keyboard, then have her do the same. I've been where you are, met the guy, situation blew up in HIS face, when he found out that this woman right here never gets spoken to like a mistreated animal.

Moral of the story? You cannot completely know someone until you meet them, until you and her spend real time together everything from this point until then is assumption. Look before you leap.

I have same problem . I think you should try to come to usa .:)