Okay, so there was this boy at my school, and we really liked each other. A few months ago he finally asked me on a date. I was so excited, and we had a GREAT time. But one day, he just didn't show up at school. I figured he was sick or something, but he never came back. I've been emailing him and calling him so many times, but he never responds. I feel like my heart was just ripped apart and thrown into the fire... I can't stop seeing his face, and I won't let any of the boys at school come near me. All of my friends left me after all I could think about was him. I think I've gone insane, and everyday I hold back from trying to kill myself... Am I crazy? Please help me...

Please see your school's counselor, nurse or a teacher immediately. They will help you sort out your feelings so you can regain control of your life.

Please post back to tell me how you are doing.

As someone who was dumped recently I know how this feels. But when i got dumped I was actually going out with him for almost a year. Was he actually your boyfriend or did you just go on a couple of dates? It seems to me that perhaps he just wasnt into you. I know it sounds harsh because ive had it said to me so many times before. Boys are strange within how they work. From self experience calling him all the time is a bad away as it makes you look desperate and clingy which would put any guy off. I know it hurts alot because when my boyfriend dumped me i wanted to die as well. I know everyone says this but time is a great healer. Make some new friends and things will shape up. Let me know how youre doing
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First and for most... you are not crazy... This is a result of a love struck heart. Love or not... you are bound to feel this way. You feel lost, confused, hurt and even more agitated that he left and didn't even tell you. Easier said than done... if he left you, and didn't even man up enough to say anything... that should tell you enough. Hang in there... never ever give up your life for someone who wouldn't give theirs up for you.

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Let me explain something, we had been going together for almost a year. We hadn't really gotten 'into bed' but we had done other stuff...

First and for most you are heartbroken dear, and yes I've been there done it, it hurts when guys are jackasses, and I'm sorry for how you have been treated, that's horrible.

Jordon.

He may be missing. Have you rang his parents or anything like that. What could you of possibly done that is so bad. If he just up and left withut a good reason he isn't a decent guy. There is better out there

Thanks Guys, I still love him, but my family moved to a new state. (Not because of me, because of my dad's job) I have new friends that I can laugh with and actually enjoy myself. I still won't go dating, I'm not ready for that again, not yet. I have friends that are boys, and I think it's slowly helping get over Jack. :) Thanks for your support.

toonytrolly,
If you are like most people, this won't be the last time you will feel the pain of unrequited love. But you just learned a valuable lesson: you lived through it.

I would encourage you to look inward and try to understand why you were so devastated. Could it be you are too needy and therefore set yourself up for disappointment? I read a quote once that goes something like this: "he who loves the most is destined to be hurt."
If you are "all in" right from the start, you deprive the other person of the challenge of trying to win you over; that means, he needs to feel like he earned your love and respect to feel good about both himself and you.

I am glad you are doing better and took the time to update us.

Hey, I wish I could've found this thread earlier... Supported you before.

I'm glad to hear you're doing better! You've come along way, and I'm sure it wasn't all easy. Never forget how this went! Even when things seem like there's no hope, it can and usually WILL get better. You've gone from suicidal thoughts to what sounds pretty good.

EVERYONE goes through this. Also know that this will probably happen again, several times. Take this situation as an example that (as I said earlier) time heals wounds! Learn to control your feelings a bit more, so that next time you're in a situation like this, you don't want to kill yourself. The fact that suicidal thoughts come to you so quickly is a little concerning. This will happen again, and be ready for it.

As for the present, having male friends will help. The ol' "plenty of fish in the sea" comes to mind. As hard as it may be for you believe now, you will meet other guys you "love" equally or even more than you did Jack before you know it. Having guy friends will help that move along.

You've done well till now, but there is more to go before you are all back. Sounds like you're doing well, and I am confident that from what I hear, you can do the rest no problem.

Good luck, and keep us updated!

First off, you aren't crazy, most everyone has feelings of feeling "left behind," however, I do believe you need to talk to an adult about the suicidal feelings. A teen should not be feeling this way especially at this prime time in your life. You have many years a head of you and there are plenty of fish in the sea. I understand, being a teen myself, the feeling of attachment when you are finally with that "perfect guy," but hunny, there is so much more to life and you should look forward to everyday you live whether you have the boy of your dreams or not. You're a stronger person than that.

-Steffy Baby TM

Okay, now there's another problem. One of my 'male friends' asked me out on a date. He's really shy, and I like him. I'm just not so sure that I should go out with him, I don't want to go through the pain so soon again. Either things will go right, or things will go terribly wrong. :s I don't want to hurt his feelings, and I told him that I needed some time to think about it. I asked my other friends about it and they got all quiet and changed the subject. Is that a bad thing? Please help me...

Your other friends probably didn't want to deal with your issues. Exactly why, I cannot say.

Have you ever made contact with this other guy yet? If you cannot get ahold of him, I would recommend going over to his house. Maybe he moved or something?
If he isn't there, or just won't see you, then it sounds like you got used. Sorry, but there really is no easy way to get around it.
Taking some time to think is a good idea, but you don't want to take too much time, as this other guy may get the wrong idea.
If you want to get over that old guy, even if just a little bit, you may consider accepting this friends proposal, even if you don't want it to turn into something. It will just help you get your mind off that first guy.

Good Luck!

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Okay, so there was this boy at my school, and we really liked each other. A few months ago he finally asked me on a date. I was so excited, and we had a GREAT time. But one day, he just didn't show up at school. I figured he was sick or something, but he never came back. I've been emailing him and calling him so many times, but he never responds. I feel like my heart was just ripped apart and thrown into the fire... I can't stop seeing his face, and I won't let any of the boys at school come near me. All of my friends left me after all I could think about was him. I think I've gone insane, and everyday I hold back from trying to kill myself... Am I crazy? Please help me...

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then move onif you keep chasing yesterday you'll miss tomorrow

Good saying Unknown51

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Good saying Unknown51

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Thanks

She did move on. If you read post #12 it reflects that she has a new issue now.

If you like this new boy then go for it but take things slow. Don't allow your past relationship to influence your future relationships because all guys aren't the same.

Your ex was a coward for not having the courage to let you he was even alive and not giving you closure. But all guys aren't the same.

Throughout life you going see that some relationship lasts and some don't. It isn't a fairy tale. Sometimes you got to kiss a few frogs to get to your prince.

However don't force it. If your not ready than your not ready but when you do get ready give that person an equal chance.

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She did move on. If you read post #12 it reflects that she has a new issue now.
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And didn't see that coming