Well it's been over three months now since we broke up and we've talked very little during that period because she didn't feel comfortable doing so. Even going so far as to block me on MSN chatroom, naturally these past few months have been excruciatingly depressing

And now recently she has acquired a new boyfriend which practically burned my insides when I see them holding hands, but at the same time she unblocked me on the internet chatroom making it possible to start talking to her again

When I talk to her on there it really is badd, she seems like she doesn't really want to talk in the first place. So I guess in a way in made me feel a little worthless

My only option is to finally approach her in real life (not in chatrooms) like how she first took her interest in me, problem is is that it's difficult to see her alone, if I talk to her with friends around (or worse her new boyfriend) I would just come off as akward and uncomfortable

Any tips to sort of "subtlety" get this to happen? Or should I just hope for the best? Mind we both are in high school and she's not in any of my classes

And also I know that I should just get over her in the first place, but seeing as my feelings haven't lessened during the three months, I'm assuming that they aren't going to go anywhere, so I just feel that maybe if I do this small little thing I could have a lot more of an elevated mood

Yeah I got a tip for you

Stop acting like a love sick puppy. Have some self respect
maybe throw some pirde in there to while your at it ;)

Oh and by the way.. the reason why your feelings have gone away you nutter =) is because you keep on trying to contact her
and you see her a lot

the seeing her can't be helpt as I assume you go to school with her or something.

but you can stop trying to get her on MSN
that's why you go N.C so you can get RID of them feelings

You don have feelings for her.. you have feelings for the way SHE made you feel when you was with her.
trust me everyone you let in. make you feel a different way
and there are other people out there.
you will learn this in due time ;)

listen. She has a boyfriend now she moved on.

Why on earth are you wanting to
A- Mess with someone that has a someone else
B- Why are you being so selfish
C- She blocked. Now she unblocks you. And you think there is a chance? Why on earth would you want to be with someone like that?


My advice go no contact YOU block her.
You Make up your own rules don't follow her lead. Drop her from your life and move on.

I know you think my words are harsh or I don't know what I'm talking about etc etc.

but I'm not here to give any form of validation,
I have been threw this and I have read 1000 of these posts
so trust me when I say this.

For you own well being
Block her and move on.

good luck

May I know the reasons of your broke up? Based on your story, I guess she doesn't like you anymore.. your still young and I know you will find someone better.. life must go on.. just think of this " its her lost not yours" she took for granted the person who love her for real... try to mingle with other girls.. try to look around I know someone loves you more than your ex does.. its a normal process of growing up..

We initially broke up because I was a tad to clingy, and made a little to many cocky remarks around her which annoyed her a little and I was to blinded to notice, she became a little distressed about things and I always offered my help but she seemed annoyed by it, so I gave her some space for a couple days (which I look on now was very stupid)

And also I forgot a very important part, the sad thing is... we only dated for a month

I only wish my feelings would just go away, but now I'm just starting to think they won't :P you can see my little predicament

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Originally Posted by NateStone

we initially broke up because i was a tad to clingy, and made a little to many cocky remarks around her which annoyed her a little and i was to blinded to notice, she became a little distressed about things and i always offered my help but she seemed annoyed by it, so i gave her some space for a couple days (which i look on now was very stupid)

and also i forgot a very important part, the sad thing is..... we only dated for a month

i only wish my feelings would just go away, but now i'm just starting to think they wont :P you can see my little predicament

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I got news for you, you are still acting clingy. Move on your feeling will go away if you give it some time.

I know you don't want to hear this, but this is exactly what you need to hear:

Stop trying to contact her and start focusing on yourself! The only reason why you're still feeling these feelings after 3 months is because you haven't accepted that she no longer wants to be with you and has already moved on. Don't let you be the obstacle to you getting over her.

Don't torture yourself any longer. The longer you delay, the longer it will take for you to heal your heart. The people who tell you to go No Contact have nothing to gain by telling you do this - they are telling you because this is what you need to do to get better faster.

Pick yourself back up, start doing the things you were doing before you met her - if you weren't doing much to begin with, start doing new things.

Life will go on, I promise.

You are still young and have a lot of growing as a person to do. I would take this past relationship as a lesson learned. You admit you are a clingy person, I would move on with out her and work on you and maybe the next relationship don't be as clingy.