I have always considered myself to be one of the "lucky" ones. I had 2 parents that were high school sweethearts, who were always at my games,plays etc. we had Sunday dinners and I was always in a stable LONG relationship. I am 25 and have only had 2 boyfriends together lasting 10yrs. July 19th 2008, my father died suddenly of a heart attack, my grandfather passed 2wks later and my boyfriend of 5yrs left me. I am left with a house full of sadness, a non existent love life and a mind that just doesn't know how to cope. I am consistently lookinf for affection and acceptance for a male figure and all of my friends are either married or engaged or dating someone seriously. I feel alone all the time and all I can do is think about dying. I am beyond depressed and don't feel like my life will make a turn around in any aspect...

I just want to say that I'm so sorry for everything that has happened to you.

But the world doesn't close doors without opening windows. It may take a while to see but this will work out OK. You will find someone that cares for you.

Try to keep yourself busy with other things. Start a new hobby where you can meet new people, possibly a love interest and if not maybe ones that are single so you can see the fun side of it again.

Best of Luck.
Keep us posted and don't forget to vent.

Sweetie, loss is the hardest part of life, but it isn't the end of life.

I lost both my parents within 6 1/2 months of each other, I took care of them until they died. I've had ups and downs.

Have you considered getting some help dealing with this? Have you talked to your doctor about possibly going on an antidepressant for the time being so that you can get into a better state of mind?

I've been on antidepressants since 2001, and I have to say they really helped and continue to do so. For you it may be just a temporary thing, but it's something to look into.

There are support groups out there, you just have to find one in your area. Trust me, you're not alone, many people have gone through horrible things and need help dealing with them.

Time heals all wounds, you will get there, with help, but you'll get there.

Please come back and talk to us, we're here to listen. :)

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Sweetie, loss is the hardest part of life, but it isn't the end of life.

I lost both my parents within 6 1/2 months of eachother, I took care of them until they died. I've had ups and downs.

Have you considered getting some help dealing with this? Have you talked to your doctor about possibly going on an antidepressant for the time being so that you can get into a better state of mind?

I've been on antidepressants since 2001, and I have to say they really helped and continue to do so. For you it may be just a temporary thing, but it's something to look into.

There are support groups out there, you just have to find one in your area. Trust me, you're not alone, many people have gone through horrible things and need help dealing with them.

Time heals all wounds, you will get there, with help, but you'll get there.

Please come back and talk to us, we're here to listen. :)

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I wish I wouldve found out about this site so much sooner. The replys mean so much to me and its funny how people you don't even know can make a difference in your thoughts everyday. Thank you!

I'm glad :)

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I wish I wouldve found out about this site so much sooner. The replys mean so much to me and its funny how people you dont even know can make a difference in your thoughts everyday. Thank you!

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That's why we're here. :)

This site is amazing, since I've been here I've met so many wonderful caring people.
The thing to remember is we're all going through something, nobody's life is perfect.

I live each day as if it's my last, because I learned the hard way that things can and
Do happen, even to the best people. I too had wonderful parents, I'm an only child and
Losing them was and is the hardest thing I've ever had to go through, and I've been
Through a lot of really hard things in my life.

The one thing I know is that they'd want me to go on, live my life, love my life, use
The time that I have to the upmost advantage. Do I always succeed? No, but I never
Stop trying.

Today is a new day, a fresh day, and it's all yours, the sky's the limit. You're just starting your journey there will be bumps in the road but the important thing is to get over those bumps, keep going and sooner or later it will be easier and easier.

We're here to help, you don't have to travel alone. :)

Hi Jeepgrl,
Sorry for your losses.

Hope you find peace soon.

Keep posting here, and I can guarantee you that you will find many like Alty here, who have been through similar situations like you and have learnt how to cope in their time of sorrow.

Just wanted to let you know,that if you needed support, this is one of the best places to ask for it.

People's lives are full of suffering... in your case, you have not had any serious hardship until now at 25.

I think you would do well to have some professional guidance regarding loss and how to cope, and then, take action to make happiness for yourself. :)

You have to beware of falling into the trap of self pity.

Best wishes to you in the future,

“There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle.”

By Albert Einstein

Please read post "constant thought all day and all night driving me crazy"
Read # 10. What I wrote should help you with this problem.
Blessings,

Maggie 3

There will always be someone worse off...
Not that it will make you feel any better; I was involved in a car accident some 20yrs ago, the girl I had just started dating seemed to be like an angel sent to take care of me. Long story short, we did get married, had two children, one autistic who is 13 and one who just turned 14.

So far so good right?

Until after being together for 18yrs, she put the mortgage (that was in my name alone) into foreclosure. She left me penniless, foodless, homeless, and unemployed. I have been unable to get a job without an address or a phone number; I'm living in my car, I haven't seen or heard from her or the kids in over a year. I have to "borrow" a wireless internet connection to try and get online, so I can check for email or instant messages from her or the kids... So far its been the one thing that's kept me from killing myself, GOD only knows why but I miss her almost as much as I miss the kids.

I've lost all hope, ambition, and drive to do anything. I've lost between 25 and 30 pounds due to my situation... I am very depressed, cold, and feel that I really have nothing left to live for.

Try to remember the positive things you still have going for you.

I hope your situation gets better.

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There will always be someone worse off...
Not that it will make you feel any better; I was involved in a car accident some 20yrs ago, the girl I had just started dating seemed to be like an angel sent to take care of me. Long story short, we did get married, had two children, one autistic who is 13 and one who just turned 14.

So far so good right?

Until after being together for 18yrs, she put the mortgage (that was in my name alone) into foreclosure. She left me penniless, foodless, homeless, and unemployed. I have been unable to get a job without an address or a phone number; I'm living in my car, I haven't seen or heard from her or the kids in over a year. I have to "borrow" a wireless internet connection to try and get online, so I can check for email or instant messages from her or the kids... So far its been the one thing thats kept me from killing myself, GOD only knows why but I miss her almost as much as I miss the kids.

I've lost all hope, ambition, and drive to do anything. I've lost between 25 and 30 pounds due to my situation... I am very depressed, cold, and feel that I really have nothing left to live for.

Try to remember the positive things you still have going for you.

I hope your situation gets better.

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Thank you for your kind words considering the circumstances you are in yourself. I hope that this site has been helpful to you as much as it has been to me. I hope that everything with your kids figures out a way to situate itself. You sound like an amazing person who has many hard time and somehow gets going everyday. Its someone like you responding back to my plea, that makes me wake up everyday.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

It was a very rare moment... I actually made sense. :)

We can't free ourselves from our thoughts but we can change them. Change your thoughts and you change your mood. Positive affirmations can help here.