Ok, so I have this guy who has become one of my best friends this past year. We keep each other accountable and such and also hang out a whole lot. Well, since last month, he has been spending time with another guy (which I don't mind). But every time, he spends most of his time with this guy now and doesn't even barely hang out with me anymore it seems until he can't hang out with the other guy. He also has stopped inviting me to go places and stuff. I feel like he's replacing me, although he assures me that he's not. What am I supposed to think? I am really close to him (he's like a brother to me). I don't understand why he would do that. I've told exactly how I feel and poured my heart out to him. I don't understand why he acts like it's okay to keep on doing this and then act like we're cool when he does want to hang out. Can someone please give me some advice? If you need more information, just ask.

It's probably not something you want to hear at this point but this is pretty normal people behavior, especially among young people. It's part of life that kind of stinks. People tend to move away from us slowly over time. I would say work on finding some other friends besides this guy. From my experience people drift away and it's painful but it's something that can be amended with other people. This guy is not the only one in the world. There will be other guys and if he's not willing to see what a great person you are than he's not worth being your friend. If you're not ready to completely break away from him ride this out a bit see if he gets better. Try inviting him to do something maybe even his new friend can go. Try to compromise with what each of you want.

You sure you don't have any other feelings for him?

Just asking I could be way off the mark here, but honestly?

As a 17 year old i know exactly what its like. But to be honest its normal and a part of teenage life. Im sure that you and this guy are close but i dont think he is trying to replace you. When youre younger you just want to do loads of different things with different people. Because hes hanging out with someone else it doesnt mean hes forgotten you. And if he isnt inviting you places its probably because hes trying to get to know other people,not because he doesnt want you anymore. If it persists and gets to you then my advice would be to be straight with him and tell him you disagree with whats happening. At the end of the day, if hes a true friend he will understand.
Good luck
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