Met and have been hanging out with this guy for about a month. We clicked and were all about each other... We have recently had oral sex, but decided not to have intercourse because we wanted to get to know each other better. Last wknd, I got thrashed and I think I may have turn him off. He stop calling me and now he says that we were moving to fast and that he doesn't want to be in a serious "relationship" . I really like him. He want to keep in touch with me once in a while, but I kind off told him 2 never bother me again and I wanted to forget about him. I really didn't mean it, but was very hurt and angry. I want him bck, what should I do?

It is only an assumption that he backed off due to my behaviour last Sunday, but not sure if he felt I was smoothering too much. I already apologize two days ago via email&phone.He insist that my actions from a week ago doesn't have anything to do with the way he feels. And that we needed to ease off little bit... He is a very straight forward type of guy...

This happened about a week ago.Another hard part is that him&his friends are on my FACEBOOK. He still have all my postings&comments, so I did the same 2 show him I'm mature. I waited about a week before sending an email& basically told him that I was k&that he can keep in touch and that I realize we we not a good match. I won't bother again&will back off from whatever his answer mayb... But What can I do to get him back, I really like him... Do you think he'll change his mund and will come around?

You've known him for a month, you acted badly, told him off, told him to leave you alone and now you want him back?

Personally, if I were the guy I'd probably run. You've shown him that you can run hot and cold at the drop of a hat, most people don't want that kind of drama in their lives.

All you can do is tell him you're sorry and then see what happens.

Good luck.

I really wish there was some way to impart onto people that NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU TRY YOU CAN'T MAKE SOMEONE LIKE/LOVE YOU.

If for some reason this guy decides to give it another go then take it from there, if not, remember a month ago when you didn't know him and you'll realise that you'll be fine again.

The old saying is, be careful what you ask for because you just may get it. YOU DID, so move on.

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Originally Posted by akabebe

Met and have been hanging out with this guy for about a month. We clicked and were all about each other...We have recently had oral sex, but decided not to have intercourse because we wanted to get to know each other better. Last wknd, I got thrashed and i think i may have turn him off. He stop calling me and now he says that we were moving to fast and that he doesn't want 2 b in a serious "relationship" . I really like him. He wanna keep in touch with me once in a while, but I kind off told him 2 never bother me again and I wanted to 4get about him. I really didn't mean it, but was very hurt and angry. I want him bck, what should I do?

It is only an assumption that he backed off due to my behaviour last Sunday, but not sure if he felt I was smoothering too much. I already apologize two days ago via email&phone.He insist that my actions from a week ago doesn't have anything to do with the way he feels. And that we needed to ease off little bit... He is a very straight forward type of guy...

This happend about a week ago.Another hard part is that him&his friends r on my FACEBOOK. He still have all my postings&comments, so i did the same 2 show him I'm mature. I waited about a week b4 sending an email& basically told him that I was k&that he can keep in touch and that I realize we we not a good match. I won't bother again&will back off from whatever his answer mayb.....But What can I do to get him back, I really like him....Do you think he'll change his mund and will come around?

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I sent him an email a week aftr I told him to never contact me again.It basically said, I didn't know what happened to me that night , that I became 2 emotional over the phone, but whatever and the point for me writing was 2 let him know it's k 2 keep in touch, because we were adults. That I could c why we weren't a good match and 2 have a nice wknd... Well , he replied the next day and told me that he was glad we were cool and wish me a happy wknd as well... Do u think that he may call bck since he replied so soon... I was expecting a reply in a week or none at all... I'm not going to call him or contact him at alll, but Do u think is a good sign?? :o

Stop sitting around waiting for him to phone, text, or email. You can't get someone back if they don't want to be with you. From your thread it doesn't seem like the two of you was together anyway but just hanging out.

He alread advised you about what he didn't want but some how I think you thought you would be able to change that.

Stop reading too much into his email and move past him.

You treat him like crap then won't leave him alone, when he tells you he's not interested. You come off unstable.