I really trusted my friend when I told her a secret, but then she told everyone. When I tell her something she has to repeat it and she is very loud. She is my best friend but lately she has been hurting my feelings a lot. Should I just stay with her or bust up our friendship for something so stupid?

To be honest, I think that a best friend should keep their mouth shut if you tell them to. When I was younger I didn't dare to say anything when they did tell secrets to everyone,as I grew older I changed that and now I have a thing with it... if a friend can't be trusted... goodbye friend.

Have you tried talking to her though? Told her that she broke your trust by telling people... if you have and she still does it...

Do you tell her to not tell anyone.. mayb e she's the type of person who needs to hear that first... if not then I would keep her at a distance. And I would not tell her secrets. Maybe she'll get the idea!

It is very sad though, and hurtful when someone you trust does that!

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by roxypox

to be honest, i think that a best friend should keep their mouth shut if you tell them to. When i was younger i didn't dare to say anything when they did tell secrets to everyone,as i grew older i changed that and now i have a thing with it... if a friend can't be trusted... goodbye friend.

have you tried talking to her though? told her that she broke your trust by telling ppl... if you have and she still does it...

do you tell her to not tell anyone.. mayb e shes the type of person who needs to hear that first... if not then i would keep her at a distance. and i would not tell her secrets. Maybe she'll get the idea!

it is very sad though, and hurtful when someone you trust does that!

---

Well I have talked to her and I have told her not to say anything, but she thought it was just a joke and laughed.

Well sit her down and tell her that your friendship rides on the fact that you can both trust each other, and at the moment you don't feel as though you can.

Tell her that you told her something in confidence and didn't want others to know about it.

If it happens again, she is not your friend so it's time to say buh-bye!

If you can't trust your best friend ,who can you trust?

Its up to you if you keep the friendship but I would let her know that you will never tell her a secret again.

If she means that much to you ,than you forgive her but if not ,let it go.

Definitely express your frustration with her. Tell her you can never trust her again.

If you end up not being friends, you may miss her if she is that special to you.

Gossip is like a disease to some people. She may have did it not knowing the consequences.

Tell her she will have to earn your trust back.

I do not believe that people who divulge your secrets (unless it is a matter of live and death) are true friends. We only have so much time in this life, and wasting time on people who are not really your friend is just that, a waste. Move on and find true friends. Be cautious, and when you find people who you can confide in, and who will support you, keep those people close.

I agree with all of the above, if she's your friend she should be trusted... Like someone said, sit her down. Tell her you want to trust her, but you can't if she keeps spreading around your secrets.. If she does it again or thinks it's a joke and brushes it off, then I would say goodbye and find a BFF that is loyal and trust worthy.

Don't even give her an opportunity to divulge anything that could be harmful to you or anyone else. She has already proven she is not trustworthy.

Well I think that you sure talk to her and say that if I can't trust you than I don't think we should be friends anymore sorry and walk away
I'm not trying to mean but if my best friend did that to me that's what I would do although I have had friends do that to me and I didn't do anything about it and the reason I didn't do anything was because I thought that I would give them another chance to prove to me that I can trust them.
It also depends on what the secret was in order for you to know what to do about the situation, like with my friend(s) my secret was about a guy I liked and she told him I was upset but I didn't say anything to her about it because I wanted to give her another chance
Well that all the advice I can think of giving you I know it's probably not the best but it's all I got
by the way I'nm a teenager too =)
so I'm obviously not saying this because I have a lot of experience cause I don't, but I hope that this helps you in some way =)

TALK TO HER

For now, that is the best you could do. You can't hit her, can't make her stop either. But you could talk to her and tell her to really stop because it does hurt your feelings. If she doesn't stop, then you shouldn't even be friends with her anyway.

She is a bad friend if you tell her to stop doing something and she doesn't!

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Leopardstar

Well I think that you sure talk to her and say that if I can't trust you than I don't think we should be friends anymore sorry and walk away
I'm not trying to mean but if my best friend did that to me that's what I would do although I have had friends do that to me and I didn't do anything about it and the reason I didn't do anything was because I thought that I would give them another chance to prove to me that I can trust them.
It also depends on what the secret was in order for you to know what to do about the situation, like with my friend(s) my secret was about a guy I liked and she told him I was upset but I didn't say anything to her about it because I wanted to give her another chance
Well that all the advice I can think of giving you I know it's probably not the best but it's all I got
btw i'nm a teenager too =)
so i'm obviously not saying this because I have alot of experiance cause I don't, but I hope that this helps you in some way =)

---

This was not the first time though