Hi, I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 25. We've been together almost a year. Things moved really quickly and I ended up living with him only a month or so after we got together. He is the perfect guy in every way and we have never had a fight yet. However, our sex life has gradually hit an all-time low.

We use to have sex once, if not twice or more times a day for long periods on a regular basis and now it is down to almost nothing. The only time we really ever have sex is in the morning one or two (if I'm lucky) times a week and it's just straight and to the point, I'm always on top and it doesn't last long. It still feels amazing and I get off, but it's nothing like the multi-o's I use to have months ago. Maybe he loves me, but isn't sexually attracted to me? I have no idea.

He says he loves me every morning, day, and night, kisses me all the time. He always grabs my butt, hugs me, stuff like that and loves having himself touched but will rarely touch me and it ends up getting me hot and left wanting more, then he goes to bed leaving me to have to self-satisfy during the day when he's gone. He likes to hold me every night, but nothing more. I don't know what he wants from me. He always has a hard-on when we're in bed, but rarely wants to do anything about it. He's always touching himself, but doesn't want to get off. I don't understand and it's left me feeling very insecure and unattractive. This only leads my mind to wander and think some other girl is satisfying his sexual urge, or he's gay! There's no porn on his computer, so porn addiction is out of the question.

We just got a place of our own, (we use to live with housemates), and I walk around in just a thong and a tee all the time, and he does nothing about it. We've lived here since the 26th and have only had sex once (and sad to say it wasn't the first night to break in our new house, but more like the 3rd day and it was a morning quickie). I recently started going to the gym to tone up for summer (I don't have any weight problems, just looking to tone up) and am feeling super-hot, he even says it, but does nothing about it.

I feel like a horrible married couple in the sex department.

I don't know but what to do, but it's 3 in the morning and I'm awake, aroused and wish my boyfriend would just f**** me. I know it's a little crude, but I'm desperate. Any help??

Some times what I do with my partner is while I'm in bed, go to the toilet and get changed into some sexy underwear. Come in and then slowly rub his body down to his genitals. Usually he can't resist and just jumps right on top of me.

I hope this helps. If it doesn't... I don't know what to sujest!

Have you TALKED with him about it yet?

I think it would be a good idea for you to start building your self-confidence. :) Men are supposed to be pleasing you, not the other way around.

I think this is a very basic mismatch... its always going to be a point of contention.

Your boyfriend is a lucky man. I always want sex. My wife and I used to do it 4-5 times a week. She would even give me BJ's in the middle of the night.
Now, I'm lucky if she wants sex 2x/month

You say you two recently moved into a new place. Keep in mind stress affects sex drive. Moving into a new place can be more stressful to some than others. He might be stressed from work as well.

Stress can either make you want more sex, or less. Either or. He might be depressed. Don't let the boner fool you.