To clear things first I myself am a woman. And there is this other girl who I find extremely attractive. Now my problem is I don't know how to tell her I like her and that I want to get to know her. I'm afraid she'll be freaked out by me if I say anything but I'm not even sure if she's straight or not. We've kissed once but we bolth had been drinking.

*smile* well. Ask her out for coffee or whatever. Start slow work from there. If you don't know her well enough yet to know if she plays for both teams or not, I'd suggest becoming a friend before hoping for more. :)

We've been friends four about a year now. Thank you for your help *s*:)

Defintely have to ask... communicate - NOT on the phone or e-mail.

Ask about the kiss and see how she felt about it. Yes go for coffee and chat. Don't bring it up right away... ask her in a round about way... "Do you realize we kissed...."

Yet again thanks a bunch... you guys are wonderful. I apprechaite all the help. We're going to coffee this weekend. And might be making plans to do something with a few people... I'm going to give her time like you said before I mention anything.. *s*

*hugs to you all*

Honey, if you have a group of friends that meet to have an 'all girl' party, and they are not shy about exhibiting their preferences, ask her is she'd like to join you at one of these parties. There you'll be able to check her reaction to what she senses. You'll be able to tell if she shows interest or is repulsed, and will have to accept her attitude. It's better than always wondering and you'll be able to go on with your lives. You can then reassure her that you are ready to accept her as just a friend if that's all she can give.

At any rate, you'll no longer be in doubt.

Good luck dear, and keep us posted.

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Originally Posted by binx44

To clear things first i myself am a woman. and there is this other girl who i find extremely attractive. now my problem is i dont know how to tell her i like her and that i want to get to know her. i'm afraid she'll be freaked out by me if i say anything but i'm not even sure if shes straight or not. we've kissed once but we bolth had been drinking.

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I'd say try having a normal conversation at first than ask her so what kind of men r you in to?. and c what she says.. and than ask her would you ever consider being with a girl ? Take things slow try findn out first if she's straight or not I also think that if she is les.. or bio than go for it its better to know than not to know

Well now your being honest, that little fact could help with the answer you get.. But none the less man/women you know if there's a physicall attraction. I do understand your reserve,its normall. Honesty is always the best policy! Hands down sometimes the truth can be hard to swollow, but at least later your not a lier too. Tell the girl how you feel. If, and that's a big if you feel some feelings from her too. Don't be like a tiger and pounce, but let your true intentions be know.Only then will you be happy.. I hope all works out for you/yall. The whole point of life is to find someone,anyone and be happy. But I'm sure if you can't be a couple you still will want her as a friend? That's not always as easy as it sounds... you will never be able to let your true feelings known! Sometimes it best to move on.. Be patient and honest,don't be ashamed to be who you are... or what you can offer the world.

Make sure of your own feelings (if you haven'yt already) before you make a move because we can all be smitten by a kiss and may misread anothers intention. Be a shame to start something you can't finish. It could mess up what friendship you have already so tread carefully.

I'll always want to be her friend. There's no doubt in that... I agree with everything you all have said and am taking my time with this she hung out with me and my friends all weekend. Just working on getting to know her better before I make any moves of any kind towards what I want to ask her